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Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with social isolation while working from home?

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For me it's way healthier, physically and spiritually. I get to spend more time exercising, more time with loved ones, and pets, and I save money. I also do get to talk and banter with coworkers on video calls and slack.

I think a lot of it boils down to whether you're living in a place with other people or you're alone in an apartment. A family or roommates can give enough human interaction that it's not an issue at all. But many people have most of their human interaction through work and associated activity (commute, lunches, dinner after work, etc.), and the isolation is stifling. As an introvert with a medical condition, a wife…

Well said. I completely agree.

    But many people have most of their human interaction
    through work and associated activity (commute, lunches,
    dinner after work, etc.)
I think that is very unhealthy though. Obviously it's not something that can be changed easily or immediately (especially during this pandemic) but I would urge anybody reading this to steer away from this mode of existence whenever possible.

I have made amazing, lifelong friends through workplaces, but depending on one's workplace for human interaction is fraught. Workplaces are generally unhealthy places to varying degrees.

This is capitalism. I am not anti-capitalism, but the reality is that capitalism is all about extracting value from labor. Making friends at work is a bit like chunks of fruit befriending each other as they're fed through a juice presser.

    As an introvert with a medical condition, a wife and 
    three kids at home, remote working is the best thing 
    that's ever happened in my career,
This is wonderful to read!

Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with social isolation while working from home?

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As usual, the comment section on HN is absolutely dominated by introverts. This is not a bad thing, but obviously the OP is asking a question that introverts don't care about so they shouldn't really be posting. "What problem? Things are fine for me; I've been training for this my whole life" is not helpful to those with this problem. Being a hopeless extrovert, I really get how difficult it is not being in the offic…

> obviously the OP is asking a question that introverts don't care about so they shouldn't really be posting. "What problem? Things are fine for me; I've been training for this my whole life" is not helpful to those with this problem.

Well, we need to vent a bit. For the rest of our lives most of us will be forced to live by the rules defined by extraverts. This is our rare opportunity for schadenfreude. One year later, we will spend our days at pointless meetings and teambuilding activities, wishing we could be alone or with our families instead. Or we will sit in the open spaces which pointlessly violate our need for privacy for 8 hours a day, and we will pretend that it's okay because we need to pay our bills.

But of course there also should be a place for a serious debate of people who have the opposite problem.

Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with social isolation while working from home?

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I don’t look at my coworkers for social satisfaction. It can happen and that’s nice. I find the question almost inconceivable. I’m also on conference calls half the day. Quiet is nice.

> I don’t look at my coworkers for social satisfaction. Right. If remote working makes you suffer socially, then it could be your social life that needs looking at, not your work-environment.

Some people may need 16 hours of social interaction a day, so remote working can make them suffer even if their evenings are okay.
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