Best Buy. I worked as a Geek Squad agent and she worked in CD/DVDs. Found out we had similar taste in music and I won her over with my long hair and shitty rock band. 10 years ago next summer.
You would be amazed at how sexy "shitty rock" bands are.
Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?
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#62I met my wife on the website Plenty of Fish. It was actually tragedy that brought us together. I was home from college for a week due because of school shooting. We talked the night I got home and then met later that week. 6 months later I proposed and we have been together almost 10 years and married for 5.
>how did you know?
I genuinely enjoyed being around her and when I wasn't with her I would think about her and smile. After 3 months of dating we ended up going on a 5 day cruise together and things went smashing. We enjoyed each other's company and had a blast together. There wasn't one second that I wished that I wasn't there with her. After that, I knew for sure that she was the person I was going to marry.
>Half of me thinks that you have to work hard and be diligent to make it work, and the other half thinks it's just a matter of good interaction between your natural selves.
There is work involved. It gets too easy to start taking your spouse for granted. Just small things like planning a spontaneous date night or some other surprise can go a long way but that takes effort.
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#63We met through gaming -- a mutual friend was in two different Dungeons & Dragons games (well, D&D and WoD) with us, and introduced us.
Honestly, he took my breath away at first sight. And then we hit it off by talking about how to make an incredibly harsh encounter for our mutual friend. Eventually, I invited him out for a group happy hour, then to the after party at my place, then dragged him into my bedroom (to which he replied with "Yes, ma'am").
A lot of hard work went into the relationship. We've been through job loss, a disability diagnosis, moving cross-country, and money problems. But through it, there's no one else I would rather have with me. He's the kindest person I've ever met.
The biggest thing is we both had a good handle on ourselves emotionally first. We both take a lot of time to figure ourselves out, then we're honest and we trust each other. We trust that when we say something awful, it was miscommunication, and we need to talk more not less.
Going on five years, and we're consistently complimented on the strength of our relationship by friends and relatives. It's awesome. 10/10, worth the time investment
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#64I recruited someone to help me play a prank on a friend, and in return she asked me to find her a date from my university (we attended college in different cities). She forgot to say "other than you" so I won that one. We went to see a movie and one of the characters recited a short equation. I knew she was a math major so I wised off, "You're trying to solve that aren't you?" She looked at me like I was a ghost, because... she was. Click.
We have been married 20 years and we have three awesome kids. Best prank ever.
Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?
#65We met through gaming -- a mutual friend was in two different Dungeons & Dragons games (well, D&D and WoD) with us, and introduced us. Honestly, he took my breath away at first sight. And then we hit it off by talking about how to make an incredibly harsh encounter for our mutual friend. Eventually, I invited him out for a group happy hour, then to the after party at my place, then dragged him into my bedroom (to whi…
Hey, that’s beautiful! Props to you for taking the initiative!
Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?
#66I recruited someone to help me play a prank on a friend, and in return she asked me to find her a date from my university (we attended college in different cities). She forgot to say "other than you" so I won that one. We went to see a movie and one of the characters recited a short equation. I knew she was a math major so I wised off, "You're trying to solve that aren't you?" She looked at me like I was a ghost, bec…
I guess sometimes, you understand someone in a way that no one else has before.
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#67I met her on World of Warcraft. I was just getting into dungeons for the first time and her group was looking for a healer. I happened to play a resto shaman at the time, so I joined and her, her friends and I all hit it off. I joined their guild, we ran dungeons and our first raids together, we all became good friends and I started to fall in love with her.
We've been together for almost eight years now, and still play WoW almost every day. The biggest "mind blow" to me is how different our lives would have been if her group hadn't been looking for a healer at that exact moment.
Edir: as for how I "knew", I guess it just sort of became obvious. Whenever I wasn't playing WoW with her I would be thinking "I can't wait to log in and tell Laura about my day", or "I wonder why Laura isn't online right now, things aren't as fun without her". I couldn't stop thinking about her, first as a friend and then as something more.
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#68On the beach in Thailand. I was living on Tonsai for the winter rock climbing season. She came out to do the same about a month after me, arriving on New Years day. I struck up a conversation and we sat on a log and watched the sunset. A couple months later, I abandoned my idea of working North through China and instead followed her to Australia where we bought a cheap van and spent another month or so surfing. Event…
Nah that's amazing! Congrats
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#69Pizza shop at lunchtime. We were on line and the cashier was a total dope. This lady in front of me cracked a joke, I laughed and we made eye contact. I smiled and paid my bill and grabbed a seat.
As fate would have it, I got her pizza by mistake from the waitress, so I brought it over, sat down and we started talking. I was two hours late getting back to work. 16 years later, we’re still jabbering.
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#70Friday night sushi night
My best friend (and co-worker) and his wife did a regular event every Friday night at their favorite sushi place. I was invited one time and decided I needed a break from work, and so I agreed.
At the event, the woman who would ultimately become my wife was at the other end of the table, and I over heard her talking about an upcoming trip she was going to be taking with some friends to see the famous Frank Lloyd Wright “Fallingwater” house. FLW has always been my favorite architect, so that caught my attention and we talked quite a while. I later discovered that she was the only woman I have ever met who had also read “The Silmarillion”, by Tolkien.
Many things have happened since, but it wasn’t long before I realized that everything was better when we were together.
Almost twenty years now. Wow! I can hardly believe it!