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The Christian church has nothing to do with truth. Sure it might offer community, but it is a community based on dogma, on faith, not truth. Why was humanity banished from the garden? For eating from the tree of knowledge. Join a Promethean cult if you can find it OP.
Only there would have never been an Enlightenment without Catholic rigor.
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Yeah... Don't read philosophy. Don't seek truth. And if you do, you better have a new game plan for happiness and your friend group.
How about the truth that most communities are built around some kind of nonsense, and maybe you can deal with a bit of nonsense to enjoy the benefits of community?
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I don't know what "being with the wrong person" means. Congratulations.
Seriously. Not understanding what this means almost makes the reply worthless as the proper context just isn't there. I was in two different relationships where my partner was trying to destroy me. One literally tried to murder me. Being alone is so much better than that, it's not even close.
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> But it is also hard to be with someone and is very hard to take care of kids and family and such. And it is waaay harder to be with wrong person. Strong disagree. It's a different kind of hard. People can handle hard. Running a marathon is hard but a million do so every year for no reason other than maybe it's hard. The difference between taking care of kids and having a family is that it's meaningful and to most d…
> most people should aim to do what we've been biologically evolved to do, namely find companionship and love w/ someone and raise a family. You misunderstood the point. The GP isn’t saying you shouldn’t do that. They’re saying that if you find yourself in the position where you don’t have mutual love for one another, the relationship could be worse for the both of you than if you were both alone. > I don't know what…
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> But it is also hard to be with someone and is very hard to take care of kids and family and such. And it is waaay harder to be with wrong person. Strong disagree. It's a different kind of hard. People can handle hard. Running a marathon is hard but a million do so every year for no reason other than maybe it's hard. The difference between taking care of kids and having a family is that it's meaningful and to most d…
pretty sure I've 'been' biologically evolved to impregnate as many women as possible and then die at 35 like everyone else so yeah, your take is controversial, but not why you think
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Were you in full time employment whilst doing all this?
Yes. Lonely people have a lot of time. It is rarely an issue. Motivation is. OP complains about dreadful 60 hours and not about being too busy. I can relate.
simple examples are like when you are in line for something and waiting right next to someone in line for the same thing. chat them up, you have a lot in common right then. it's uncomfortable, but you have nothing to lose once you are no longer queued
or on your street, when you see someone else getting in or out of there car for the 20 seconds it takes. say something awkward to them. it's uncomfortable, but the next time won't be as much
start simple! there are opportunities to practice this in little ways every day!
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Yes, I very much agree. I think it is irresponsible to take antidepressants for something that is clearly an issue of "normal" life scenarios like hearthbreak and loneliness. It is normal, but also very much fixable by gradually putting yourself out there.
Yes, that shrink of yours is doing you a disservice giving you meds. Not all negative emotions need to be suppressed with medication. Life has its ups and downs, and drugging yourself out of the bad states will not make the sadness go away, it will only turn you numb to it, making you less empathetic to suffering in general. Instead, what I would do is try to have as much human contact as you can, talk to anyone, wit…
Negative emotions are the opposite of depression, just as much as positive emotions are. Depression is the lack of affect.
Whether it's a good idea to treat that with meds, or whether meds will do anything, is a whole other topic that neither of us is qualified to address.
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Seriously. Not understanding what this means almost makes the reply worthless as the proper context just isn't there. I was in two different relationships where my partner was trying to destroy me. One literally tried to murder me. Being alone is so much better than that, it's not even close.
Thats not what most people use about the wrong person. Thats an abusive relationship. And the comment says as much a few sentences later
It could be as simple as someone who isn't supportive ever.
And no, the person that tried to kill me wasn't abusive otherwise. She was just very unstable.