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Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

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Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#51

  I’m wfh in a medium cost of living area. My salary is 140k and work life balance is great.
I'm not seeing much to regret there. Try 'looking for work' for a year or more, with no income and mounting debts, in comparison.

But be vigilant that the current job isn't a 'shrinking pond'. At least ensure you have 'up-to-date' skills. I would say 'in-demand' skills, but that seems like an oxymoron in today's market.

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#53

I've also been at my current employer for a little more than a decade. I've been promoted to the 2nd highest level possible for an engineer without ever asking or doing specific actions to get those promotions. The last promotion would take actual direct effort, but I'm honestly not that interested. My salary is 2x-2.5x where it started as, and from a few brief stints interviewing at interesting places that reached o…

gave a similar answer. My regret is that I wish I kept learning.

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#54
I seem to only have long tenures (4 to 7 years, with 6 years average) and there hasn't been a single case when I left and wasn't having some remorse for staying too long and not leaving earlier. This includes my current position which I'm leaving after almost 7 years and wishing I would have left some two years ago.

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#55
Been 14 years at my ex employer. 9.5 employees, one chef and his chef in other company. Done shit and ripped my heart out for a penny of salary. Wasn't a problem until they employed a 52y old and she can't even do excel and shit so she started to do the boss and telling me and my colleague what we should do, without even understanding what we do.. after a while she got promoted. So we had 3 bosses. Then she started to bossing us two around and then they fired me because I spoke up and they needed to reduce to 9 employees. Me, who can do everything from a to z, knows all the problems and processes and who could do everything alone and actually have done that. The whole success of the company in the last 12 years was solely on my and my colleagues shoulders.

Leave early if possible. And just don't think they are your friends. They even didn't say thank you.

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#56

I've also been at my current employer for a little more than a decade. I've been promoted to the 2nd highest level possible for an engineer without ever asking or doing specific actions to get those promotions. The last promotion would take actual direct effort, but I'm honestly not that interested. My salary is 2x-2.5x where it started as, and from a few brief stints interviewing at interesting places that reached o…

Sounds like you found a great employer who actually invests in their people.

2.5x in 10 years is about a 10% annual raise. I've always had great performance reviews but never broke 10%. I'm at 3x salary over 8 years, but almost all of that gain came from switching jobs.

So a lot of people end up job hopping because internal raises are rarely competitive. That and a lot of companies are poorly managed and it gets old after a few years.

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#57
I also spent almost a decade at my first out-of-college corporate job. Had a great team, slowly shifted from company-specific ERP and niche client-server software to web development. It was very comfortable for a long time.

I left after internal changes started demoting my team to support and maintenance, HIPPO and all that. I don't regret staying there for how long I did: I gained a width of non-company-specific experience to find other positions. And turns out, I left at the right time, too: company was involved in a political scandal and my former coworkers are now officially "application configuration specialists" instead of "developers".

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#58
post #4

Yes, but because it was a toxic work environment. If I was in your position I would not be concerned, I would be happy. "Not growing" is subjective, the things I "grew into" 10 years ago are not relevant today.

Do you mind giving more details about your last sentence on "growing" and their relevance nowadays ?

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#59
Yes. I had a very good job. If I became unemployed I would have no concerns about going back to that job if I had to. However, I should not have stayed there as long as I did. I kept looking at friends and family and seeing how their jobs were worse, so I felt like if I changed I would just be downgrading.

However, the company I was at for a very long time did not significantly reward me for my loyalty. Just small annual raises, that's it. Like any workplace, there were problems and annoyances that did not go away. No place is perfect, after all.

I have changed jobs twice since then, and it's been a big upgrade both times. I thought it couldn't be better, but it got a lot better somehow. I've been very fortunate, and I was able to negotiate very hard from a position of strength.

If I could go back I would have changed jobs a couple more times.

Re: Ask HN: Did you regret staying at a job for too long?

#60
I'm in almost precisely the same position as you.

Will be 9 years in December. I've been promoted three times and have the highest official position that an IC can have at this company.

LCOL area, $150-175k / year depending on bonus, fully remote, devil I know, good FTO policy and work/life balance, etc. Even some equity (that seems to have a lower-and-lower expected value as the years pass, but that's another story). Lousy health care insurance but apart from that they take pretty good care of us.

I don't have advice to offer, just echoing your concerns and adding a question: have you seen a drop off in recruiting emails / requests on linkedin that started around year 6-7 and got worse from there?

Around year 5 I was getting a dozen or more emails and linkedin messages a week. Now I get maybe one every two months, usually Contract or C2H offers at that.

Unclear if this is just the state of the market, my excessive time at a single company, the keywords / skills in my linkedin becoming stale - all of the above? I've tried to keep my resume / linkedin current with promotions, descriptions of what I'm working on etc. - nothing seems to help.

Would be curious to know what the experience of others are with >=6 years at the same place.

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