I know what would get me closer to my goals, but despite many efforts I frequently do not want to do them. Most often this looks like a few days of effort and then a collapse of exhaustion where I feel like I cannot work or do what I ought to...
Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?
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#52I'm in my early-mid 20's and I feel dispassionate/disinterested doing much other than gaming and consuming content after work. There's no real "community" that I am a part of outside of work. I'm working on losing weight right now to build confidence and get into more things but until then it's just work -> gaming -> consume content -> sleep -> repeat. I feel like I need to find something outside work to enrich my li…
I was in the same situation 5 years ago.
The solution for me was focusing on 1 problem at a time for 1 year.
This was my personal solution:
I started with smoking and i quit smoking first. Year 1
Then weight. Just stop drinking soda or anything sweet and drop all candy. Withdrawal is awful (physically painful) for a week, after a month you won't miss it a bit. Forget about candy forever, just desserts in restaurants for special occasions.
Lift weights at home, start with water bottles. Just keep at it and try to improve a bit every 2 days, every small improvement is a win. Go for walks.
After a year you will be fine, i lost 45 kilos in 2 years whilst still enjoying normal food except candy. Year 2 (will become a habit)
Kickstart your career. Learn new tech in your domain and try to apply it in side projects and/or give conference talks about things you just learned. Remotely this is easier than ever. Have courage and propose architecture changes etc. If your company is unaccepting switch companies. Year 3
Now this one is hard because of covid: Go to meetups, especially gaming / board gaming focused ones. Make these social things a priority. If anyone asks you to go somewhere do it no matter what, even if you do not feel like it. Keep doing this, you will build relationships. Year 4
Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?
#53I know what would get me closer to my goals, but despite many efforts I frequently do not want to do them. Most often this looks like a few days of effort and then a collapse of exhaustion where I feel like I cannot work or do what I ought to...
Maybe change your efforts so you can see results faster and iterate on them? Perfection is the enemy of good, good is the enemy of fine, etc.
Maybe I'm interpreting too much from your comment, but I would guess the exhaustion comes from not seeing results worth the provided efforts, or not being certain the efforts are effective/efficient enough.
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#54That people don't just give me tons of money. On a more serious note, I would say people in power not following the rules. That includes managers at companies violating policies to the detriment of their employees. Another example is law enforcement and politicians breaking the law, violating procedures/regulations, or making mistakes that negatively impact citizens and not taking any responsibility or steps to make…
but what is your biggest problem?
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#55My lack of focus. I pair programmed with a colleague the other day and her ability to focus without losing sight of a goal was incredible. We were debugging for like 3 hours without dropping a beat and i can't go without a distraction for like a half hour. I'm guessing you're asking about this to generate business ideas though
Find a pairing partner and pair program all the time?
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#56I know what would get me closer to my goals, but despite many efforts I frequently do not want to do them. Most often this looks like a few days of effort and then a collapse of exhaustion where I feel like I cannot work or do what I ought to...
Romans 7:15
I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.
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#57I know what would get me closer to my goals, but despite many efforts I frequently do not want to do them. Most often this looks like a few days of effort and then a collapse of exhaustion where I feel like I cannot work or do what I ought to...
Maybe change your efforts so you can see results faster and iterate on them? Perfection is the enemy of good, good is the enemy of fine, etc. Maybe I'm interpreting too much from your comment, but I would guess the exhaustion comes from not seeing results worth the provided efforts, or not being certain the efforts are effective/efficient enough.
definitely a little of this.
However I think my main issue is so many good/real things vying for my attention. I could all day helping new engineers AND all day chasing the bugs everyone is missing AND all day doing architectural review comments AND all day on personal goals ... So sometimes things get dropped and often i get tired of going All Day...
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#58That neither of the two countries my family is from will give one set of us permanent residency, splitting the family across countries.
And the lack of countries that allow permanent residency without tying it to large investment or domestic employment.
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#59My lack of focus. I pair programmed with a colleague the other day and her ability to focus without losing sight of a goal was incredible. We were debugging for like 3 hours without dropping a beat and i can't go without a distraction for like a half hour. I'm guessing you're asking about this to generate business ideas though
Somsone did turn this into a business idea - big pharma. Some devs take amphetamines to increase focus. There are physicians who will prescribe Adderall for you to do better at your job, although it's a bit of a grey area and you'll have to shop around to find one.
Fly me to the moon and let me play among the stars
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#60Keeping my weight under control. I've gained 20 pounds over the last year. It doesn't help that I bought a stand mixer and love baking. Cycling alone doesn't seem to keep things under control. I either need to do bigger riders or supplement it. The one good thing is my eating out has been drastically cut. But there is still work to be done there.
I am not sure you will lose much weight by doing sport. Actually you build muscle when you exercise a lot, and it's heavy (and good to have).
You should do sport, but if you want to lose weight the simplest is to eat less. I know that can be difficult.