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Yep! You’re doing it all the time by deciding what to put into it!
Speaking as someone who worked very hard to overcome some problems with anxiety, I can tell you it is certainly not 'super simple'. It was very hard work and I had a wonderful psychologist to help guide me through. People who suffer should have hope, but telling them it is 'super simple' sets them up for a nasty fall. It's a battle against years of habits.
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Yep! You’re doing it all the time by deciding what to put into it!
Speaking as someone who worked very hard to overcome some problems with anxiety, I can tell you it is certainly not 'super simple'. It was very hard work and I had a wonderful psychologist to help guide me through. People who suffer should have hope, but telling them it is 'super simple' sets them up for a nasty fall. It's a battle against years of habits.
Try evaluating theoretical events with a probability rating. It doesn't have to be crazy specific, for example: you're worried about your boss being mad at you and firing you next week because you heard there might be some layoffs. Real threat, uncertainty, the worst of it. You ask, is there a greater than 50 pct chance or less than 50 pct chance that this can happen? It's not meant to be scientific, only build persp…
I identify with much of what you say. For a long time I did not have the skills to deal with these feelings. Now I do, but it's always hard. A lot of this I got from about 18 months of cognitive behavioral therapy. Here are some general tips that work for me: 1. Feelings do not need to drive how I make decisions. I have them, and work on ways to let them pass. 2. To deal with things I worry about, I confront my worri…
Try doing the vertical arrow technique by David burns (google it) to see if it helps. Basically sometimes the thing you're worrying about isn't actually the thing that is the core of your worry and this technique helps a lot with that. For example if you're worrying about going out ask what does it really mean.. you'll come up with something like "the other person may not like me" again what does it mean "I'm a total…
I identify with much of what you say. For a long time I did not have the skills to deal with these feelings. Now I do, but it's always hard. A lot of this I got from about 18 months of cognitive behavioral therapy. Here are some general tips that work for me: 1. Feelings do not need to drive how I make decisions. I have them, and work on ways to let them pass. 2. To deal with things I worry about, I confront my worri…
5. Unsecured debt is unsecured! You should feel free by that! They took the risk on you! If you can't pay, don't.. yes your credit will hurt and it will hurt some future plans potentially but at the same time it is not the end of the world.
2. Don't just let these ruminations run wild. Ask yourself what outcome you would like to see. Try to figure out a way to imagine coming up with an excellent solution.
3. "Count your blessings." Stop and list some of the things that are going right. On any given day, you are likely to have a column of bad news and a column of good news. We tend to pay more attention to the bad news. You can give push back against that human tendency.
4. Eat something, drink something, take a nap and/or "stop and smell the roses." When you are falling apart emotionally, spend a few minutes engaging in self care. It can make a big difference.
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5. Unsecured debt is unsecured! You should feel free by that! They took the risk on you! If you can't pay, don't.. yes your credit will hurt and it will hurt some future plans potentially but at the same time it is not the end of the world.
I see you've never had student loans in the USA :) There's no way to escape those unless you're in a permanent coma and Obama is still POTUS.