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I struggle with the question whether to have children or not. I'm surrounded by new fathers who struggle with their children, whose wives have turned from attractive women into unattractive moms. I read witty comments all the time suggesting how much of a burden kids are. This struggle burns me out.
Here's to hoping we all age perfectly!
I struggle with the question whether to have children or not. I'm surrounded by new fathers who struggle with their children, whose wives have turned from attractive women into unattractive moms. I read witty comments all the time suggesting how much of a burden kids are. This struggle burns me out.
Meh, it is not as hard as it seems. Just get yourself 2 kids in quick succession. Adding second one will be both easier than getting first and it will highlight how silly it was to feel that it is difficult when it was just one. Also they will play with each other while you watch TV and drink beer.
Because, what the hell!
Caffeine addiction, physiological dependence and psychological addiction, where the caffeine plays a major factor in ill health effects (sleep loss, anxiety, depression, etc.)
(Not sure if it will help, but l-theanine gets rid of the jittery effects when I have had too much, though I am pretty sensitive to caffeine).
I struggle with the question whether to have children or not. I'm surrounded by new fathers who struggle with their children, whose wives have turned from attractive women into unattractive moms. I read witty comments all the time suggesting how much of a burden kids are. This struggle burns me out.
I'm at 11 kids now. The struggle and burden is real, though most people wrongly assume that it is a linear function of the number of kids. It isn't so bad. The first one upturns your life. The second and third are much less trouble. After that, the only thing you notice is when you outgrow a vehicle. I'm at a 15-passenger van now, which is hard to outgrow before the oldest kids learn to drive. Once you have a couple…
You make completele sense. But you didn't; at one time.
It took a lot of convincing before we had our first one. I was terrified and completely worried about everything all the time.
The second also took some convincing. But after he came; I really felt like I could handle anything. After a few months of both; I no longer had these worries about adding more kids. I don't think there's much difference between 2+ and 20.
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This comment comes off as intensely smug, from someone who has little experience with difficulty in dating. Things are not so simple. In fact, the very nature of social interaction is such that it cannot be preemptively, logically broken down and solved. Many men have trouble getting past step 1 on the dating apps you list. The funnel of capture, so to speak, from message to response can be extremely wide, both on an…
The comment didn't come off as smug to me, but rather as so clearly true that it shouldn't need further explaining. With a high risk of being labeled a weird PUA-- social interaction is easily able to be broken down logically. Humans are animals, and just like animals can be trained and managed, humans can be trained and managed. It can be analyzed with data if you're willing to whip up a spreadsheet. It can be treat…
Imposter Syndrome. I've worked in various technical roles at startups, huge public companies, and have received offers from FAANG companies. I still sometimes feel like a complete fraud, like I don't deserve to be in the position I am in. It really bothers me. Maybe its related to the incredibly smart people I work around. Maybe its because I am self taught, so didn't have a "formal" education in CS or Statistics. Ma…
FWIW, if you have this, you have it. It doesn't care what you do for a living.
The pay normally doesn't bother me unless certain bills or other things come up, but when it does, I always think about my pay rate and where I probably should be at.
My issue is that the _only_ thing I don't like about the job is the pay but everything else keeps me here and I don't know what to do.
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I didn't get married until I was in my late 20s. Before that I had never held hands, never kissed, was still a virgin, etc. I always struggled with thinking my competition had a huge advantage by having experience in all those things. But now that I have significant experience myself (married + 2 kids), I realize that wasn't really the case. You can go from a level 0 kisser to a level 3 kisser in an evening or two (m…
Please explain what the levels of kissing are? Or link to a description?
I’m 30 and haven’t really had much dating experience. It boggles my mind how people are already married by 30. How does dating work? Serious question.
I didn't go on my first date until a month before my 30th birthday. Met my eventual wife on OKCupid 18 months later, married her 2 years after that, and now have a 7 month old, ~7 years after it all started. I'll disagree with a lot of the advice given here. The pictures on online dating sites are what you make of them. I didn't even like my wife's pictures, I only messaged her because she was playing 4 truths and a…
The whole point of Red Pill stuff is that there's a disconnect between what people want and what they say they want. Also I seriously doubt your female friends have ever actually read any of the material and only know what it is from second hand information. So really their opinion on it is worthless. Also first rule of fight club.
>and a married coworker was like "Well, it works on some girls - usually the type that's a total trainwreck in a relationship anyway."
First, he's married so he's not exactly PUA material. Second, it works on some people, and it just so happens that there's plenty of people out there who are trainwrecks in relationships. It's part of why they're single. It's selection bias. I don't think there's any real correlation.
Disclosure: I am not into Red Pill or PUA or The Game or whatever people call it. There is good information in there that is not obvious to some people who haven't dated much or spent time to really analyze human behavior. However there is also lots of sexism and women hating surrounding that information.
I make I try to get at least one Git commit every day, but my job is pretty draining, so that doesn't happen. And sometimes all my projects get blocked on hard stuff that I don't have the energy to solve. For all I know, I might look alright on paper. I've co-authored a paper in a respectable journal, written a few Rails apps, a few desktop apps, and a crappy interpreter for an old language - which doesn't really use…
I can imagine that there are senior engineers that couldn't explain to me what a lexer/parser does let alone elaborate on the trade offs of a specific implementation. I'm not in the position to hire but send me an email if you want to connect.
Are there any good books on compiler theory?