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Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Post by ianmcgowan »

ThalesX wrote: post #266
thyrox wrote: post #83

Worrying and arguing about things in the future. I wasted so much time and energy on this but as I get older I've realised there is so little of what we can actually control vs what we think we can do. Most of the time just saying Yes and waiting for things to actually happen is so much easier. A lot of time what you worry about never happens and if it does it isn't always as bad as you make things out to be in your…

I argue for the future so much. I hope to be able to at one point get rid of my anxiety about it. But: > Also when you say yes to people, a lot of time the other person never actually follows through the thing you didn't want. Otoh if you would argue or say No beforehand it always has the opposite effect. I recently started doing this and it's amazing. I was the one saying 'no' to so many 'offers' (as a full stack de…

AKA, the "Wally Reflector", https://imgur.com/Db0c9eP

It's really easy for people to put stuff on your to-do list, reflecting even a tiny task on them before you accept it makes so many requests go away.

Related to this for me, I generally make it clear that sending an email request does not mean a task is transferred to me. We need to have a conversation and agree before it goes on my list..

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Post by explorigin »

ansible wrote: post #360
micheljansen wrote: post #307

I think I was in my late twenties when I found out I had been tying my shoes wrong all my life. There is a correct and an incorrect way to do it. This affects not just how the knot looks (straight vs crooked), but also how easily it becomes untied: https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/theres-a-better-way-to-tie-...

The linked article mentions that the "strong" knot is unlikely to come undone. This knot will not come undone: https://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/secureknot.htm And you can still untie by pulling on one of the ends. Though you have to make sure that while untying, you don't allow the loop to go over the other end of the shoelace.

I second this. I've been using this knot for years. It's a bit tricky to tie but still the best.

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Post by mijoharas »

Jommi wrote: post #204
ralmidani wrote: post #125

Putting off an annual checkup with a PCP (I’m 42, and the last PCP I had was a pediatrician). I had long suspected my cholesterol and triglycerides were high due to family history and my excessive love for cheese, and last week that suspicion was confirmed. I’m now more resolute than ever on lifestyle changes (exercise, less red meat, getting most of my calcium from 2% milk). On the bright side, I also got reassuranc…

FYI the above is american-focused healthcare language. There are no annual checkups in most other countries outside of certain age or risk groups. You might however get a health checkup from occupational healthcare sometimes! Just putting this a note here for non-american readers so they don't get confused.

Yep, I had to Google PCP (I know one acronym PCP, and I was _fairly_ sure that wasn't what the commenter was referring to).

Primary Care Physician for anyone else wondering (equivalent to a GP in England I think)

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Post by thih9 »

fellerts wrote: post #417
alainchabat wrote: post #350

Having my tongue rest on the bottom of your mouth. Proper tongue positioning is when you rest your tongue on the roof of the mouth and away from the teeth. It's been 2 years I've been "mewing"[1]. A good side effect for me: Now I stop snoring and I believe I have better posture. Some claim that it will improve your jawline but not for me, I guess I started too late. If I had started in my teen, I believe I would have…

Hard to tell, but I think this is the natural resting spot for my tongue. Now I'm curious, where else would you rest it?

According to GP, incorrect:

> on the bottom of your mouth

correct:

> when you rest your tongue on the roof of the mouth and away from the teeth

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Post by high_byte »

micheljansen wrote: post #307

I think I was in my late twenties when I found out I had been tying my shoes wrong all my life. There is a correct and an incorrect way to do it. This affects not just how the knot looks (straight vs crooked), but also how easily it becomes untied: https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/theres-a-better-way-to-tie-...

wow. just go the other way around. very subtle it does feel stronger. will have to check it out throughout the day though

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Post by username3 »

chasing wrote: post #181
xyzelement wrote: post #19

I used to assume the religious people were missing something and missing out on the latest and greatest. Now I am seeing that often it's us the non-religious that have lost something of value and are trying to replace it with things that don't work as well.

Not all non-religious people suffer from some kind of spiritual or ethical deficiency. I get saddened when religious storytelling fills people with fairy tales and arbitrary hate and makes them incapable of seeing things about existence that are truly beautiful.

What are examples of things about existence that are truly beautiful?

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Post by Nesco »

alainchabat wrote: post #350

Having my tongue rest on the bottom of your mouth. Proper tongue positioning is when you rest your tongue on the roof of the mouth and away from the teeth. It's been 2 years I've been "mewing"[1]. A good side effect for me: Now I stop snoring and I believe I have better posture. Some claim that it will improve your jawline but not for me, I guess I started too late. If I had started in my teen, I believe I would have…

”Mewing” is just normal tongue posture. It will not improve your jawline. Usually it’s the reverse: if you need to “mew” / put your tongue on the roof of your mouth consciously and if you naturally snores it’s because of a problem.

Problem that is often genetic or more rarely that appeared during your development: either your face lacks forward projection or a part only is recessed (malocclusion: your upper and lower teeth don’t perfectly fit).

The only way to definitively cure it is to go through an orthognatic surgery. If not treated it might evolves into sleep apnea as you are getting older. You should check with an orthodontist or a maxillo-facial surgeon to make sure that’s what your are suffering from.

If your are lucky like me, ie you have enough projection and no malocclusion, a genioplasty might be sufficient to naturally seal your lips without muscle contraction by bringing them closer. In my case it’s what created the pressure differential needed for my tongue to stay in the roof of my mouth. If you are unlucky a BSSO, a Lefort I or both (Bimax) might be necessary. Some extreme cases might even require the three surgeries.

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Post by yamtaddle »

Oh! Another!

Car side mirrors. I spent more than a decade of driving adjusting them wrong. You want them so you don't see cars behind you at all in your side mirrors until they're transitioning off the edge of your center rear-view mirror. This gives you far more coverage of your sides, and every car is still visible in at least one mirror at all times. For me, where I put my seat, this usually means setting them as far out as they'll go.

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