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I read the book “The anatomy of peace” 16 months ago, and it has impacted my life in more ways than I ever would have thought possible.

It helped me understand how I created all the trouble I have experienced in my life, why I never became “succesful” and why I had felt so stuck most of my life.

I now understand how my mindset, how I see the person in front of me, either as a person or as an object, has a greater impact on my results than anything else.

Even on my abillity to be unstuck, to change my mind, to moce fast and break things.

10/10 would recommend it to anyone.

Re: Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?

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The appendices of The Illuminatus! Trilogy, followed by some of Robert Anton Wilson's other work.

Doing the experiments contained within some of his books will take you on a very rational, sensible journey to some very strange places, and may break parts of your worldview.

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I read a lot. But no one book has changed the way I think about almost everything, persistently. It will be foolish to assume, some book will magically do that.

All good ideas help, and we test those theories and decide our ourselves to keep the idea or ignore it. We are sum total of our ideas and behaviors, and it constantly evolves. Good books help with forming good ideas, and clear thinking. It varies from person to person. It could be Quran, a psychology book, or a puzzle book.

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Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns helped me get out of a hole of anxiety, depression, and panic attacks. Not to say I'm all the way there, but I'm far better than I used to be, and perfectly functional. His list of 10 cognitive distortions was tremendously enlightening, like I felt a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders when I realized how I could combat my bad thoughts with rationality.

Re: Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?

#475
No specific book changed my thinking on "almost everything." Mostly old age did that, and the process of attaining old age. Some of that process included books, and some of those are listed here.

> every action humans take can be traced back to an incentive

It's not enough to know that an action traces back to an incentive. You also need to know which of multiple possible incentives might be the incentive. The obvious incentive is often not the actual incentive, as we're seeing demonstrated in current American and British politics.

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#477
There are 3 for me: I agree about Freakanomics - it definitely got me thinking about how economics rules the world in one way or another.

The New Jim Crow - this gave me a way to frame structural racism and its impact now, in today's society.

The Stronger Women Get, the More Men Love Football - I read this in high school. And it really gave me an understanding on how sports reflects our society's structure and values in the narrow sense. And got me thinking about how, more broadly, pop culture is a really good lens to use to understand our culture whether it is sports, tv, music or mass media.

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Crucial Conversations. In my educational upbringing there was never any exploration of emotional intelligence and how to communicate. Since reading this book I notice elements it describes in basically every meaningful conversation I have.

I cannot help but view every single thing involving humans through this lens. Humans physically cannot choose to ignore emotion and think or communicate "rationally". That's why people who think they're "logical" have no immunity from motivated reasoning, and "rationalist" can turn so toxic and so divorced from reality.

That's why some of the most "logical", mathematically intelligent people are so susceptible to religious ideas: https://idlewords.com/talks/superintelligence.htm

Re: Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?

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Thinking in Systems: A Primer by Donella H. Meadows https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1603580557/

I read it once a year. It changed how i think about everything. My career is based on this book. My interaction with people and groups of people is based on this book.

Re: Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?

#480

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg is an amazing eye-opener. It's a book about how how to interact with your fellow humans in a way that enriches the lives of everyone around you. It's full of things that should be obvious, but in practice are not. You can think of it as a more advanced version of Dale Carnegie's "How to make friends and influence people", with more focus on conflicts, and a specific c…

+1 to NVC.
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