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Re: Ask HN: I just gave myself a panic attack. How do I stop this?

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think I get what anger means here. I think the OP meant that you need to express your angry feelings that come from the frustration; just holding back will only make it worse. Don't think OP meant to be violent.

I think you have no idea what anger is. I hope you continue your life like this.

Anger is an emotion, it's a signal that your boundaries are violated and you need to assert your needs. It's not the same as violence.

See here:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/real-women/202112/ho...

Re: Ask HN: I just gave myself a panic attack. How do I stop this?

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Sounds like there's a communication issue between you and whoever is holding you to this deadline. You should have a week of buffer at least. If you think you're coming in hot, notify whoever ASAP that the deadline needs to be extended and/or more resources need to be allocated to your project. If neither are possible then escalate the issue higher up. It's there's still no action, miss the deadline, it's ok to let the ball drop if you can't handle it. Don't stress it either. It's a signal to the company of a larger issue, especially if it's documented that ample notification was given. It will be the person that held the deadline that will be ultimately be responsible for not working with you to resolve the situation.

You are part of a company/team, if you're soloing basically anything without support that's a red flag. Don't take failure personally, if you've done everything correct and communicated properly any failure is the team, not just you. I used to be in your situation. You need to change your perspective and detach any personal responsibility. Do what you can, and if you can't communicate. Failure is an option, but don't view it as yours. If you think things could of been done better, people should of listened, save it for the retrospective.

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