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If you want somebody to talk to drop me an email at pavlo@malynin.com about anything thats on your mind.
If you want to talk to somebody at this current moment you can also text HOME to 741741 to speak with a counselor.
I’ve been there. I’ve suffered from depression for 20 years now… but my darkest, lowest points were 06-09. I had pathologically negative thoughts just like you’re experiencing. It’s incredible suffering, I know! No one really understands unless they’ve been there themselves. You can recover. The darkness will eventually relent. You can be productive and successful one day. It’s not over. There are no easy solutions o…
At this point i feel like it's bottomless There is no light at the end of the tunnel, it's only getting darker and darker day by day
Yet there’s really no justification for it, things aren’t actually getting worse. In fact, my most depressed years were a kind of stasis where nothing external was really changing. The lack of change is what eventually caused what can only be described as mental paralysis to take hold. There is no light in the tunnel because your brain is expecting a continuation of the status quo.
I have one and only piece of advice: seek treatment for your depression.
You likely won't be able to implement any of these other suggestions until you do that one.
Depression is no joke and can very easily ruin your life if you don't treat it. None of the other suggestions I saw in the thread seem to understand this. (The hyperbole and a half webcomic series on depression does, however.)
My contact info's in my profile, and I have some suggestions to that end I don't wish to write here.
Call or email me. Don't wait.
Been there, it gets better. If you want somebody to talk to drop me an email at pavlo@malynin.com about anything thats on your mind. If you want to talk to somebody at this current moment you can also text HOME to 741741 to speak with a counselor.
Few people have anything resembling a plan. Just don't ask randos on the internet. You'll hear this often, because there's truth to it: Seek therapy. It's not a sign of weakness. And if the therapist doesn't "click" with you, see a different one.
I have called everyone in my area, many times, nobody could give me an appointment Already on drugs, but taking them makes me feel more shit, because then i have a thought that i'm a broken person and can't live a normal live without depending on meds
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OK number one thing to understand first and foremost: you are not a ‘broken person’ if you take medication. It’s a tired trope, but only because there’s some truth to it: a person with kidney, heart, or other organ issues isn’t a broken person because they take medication for their condition, right? Same applies to any of your conditions.
Instead of going through this and fixing my life, i'm outsourcing it on pills
if you're putting this in one sentence try not having the money and see how it feels
Find a homeless person. Tell them if they’re interested you want to share a lunch with them while they tell you their story. Doesn’t have to be the story of how they became homeless, just any story they want to share with another human being.
Many homeless are invisible and feel like less than human because they can go months before exchanging an authentic conversation with another person. For a social species like ours, that’s a torturous existence.
You might not feel less like a useless parasite, but for that moment, for that individual, you objectively made a difference.
Second: check your diet, sleep and health. A good mind needs all of those in proper order. See an expert if any of those is not in place.
Third: Do you work part-time/full-time? If yes you are already contributing something to the world. If not, are you a student? You will have to chart out a path depending on your current status.
A few people I've spoken with who "broke out" of this mentality credit Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/03458... Here's a quick video (12 min video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ApC0faRYabI I suspect his lectures, books, etc are likely more in depth. I personally haven't read it much, but am aware of the rules. At the end of the day, you have to just get m…
JP is great for people that have some basis of peace and joy in their lives. It will do nothing for people that don't have that baseline.
That said, I’m not super familiar. I think generally habit building is what I’ve seen work and be recommended.
Also join a community and say you need help. That’s effectively what churches are well positioned to assist with.