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Try doing the vertical arrow technique by David burns (google it) to see if it helps. Basically sometimes the thing you're worrying about isn't actually the thing that is the core of your worry and this technique helps a lot with that. For example if you're worrying about going out ask what does it really mean.. you'll come up with something like "the other person may not like me" again what does it mean "I'm a total…
sounds like "five whys" https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/5_Whys
You realize that "I also worry deeply about hypothetical situations" is something that many people can't or won't do.
Have you ever shared with someone one of your issues (maybe something more mundane) and they blew it off only to have exactly that outcome (and then had to bite your tongue instead of saying I told you so?) Maybe you thought of it and didn't say it and kicked yourself for NOT bringing it up.
If you can do this then you may have a skill (and one that is somewhat unique).
The worry part, and the fact that it is chronic and haunting is a problem.
For me, It stopped when I realized that I wasn't getting to enjoy things in my life due to the worry. I made a lot of changes on the way. I embraced the fact that I was going to die - and that it was out of my control - you could get hit by a bus staring at your phone one day... a jet engine could fall out of the sky and kill you. I had to embrace the fact that I could not change the world only my role in it. I had to embrace the fact that anything I paid for was replaceable. That I could always find another job - that if I had to I could live in a shelter or a trailer or my car - because it would only be temporary because I could make it better. It took a LONG time and a LOT of self talk. It took a few bad things happening that were easily avoidable but also less of a real problem then what I made them out to be.
IF you don't think you can do this, or it won't work for you, then seek professional help - it works for a lot of people and may work for you.
It has very actionable and simple advice. I've given the book to many people and they all have liked it.
- The subtle art of not giving a F*
- The rational Male
- No more mr. nice guy
This is super simple. Use your conscious mind to program your unconscious mind. Do this by deciding how you want to think and act, and then consciously think those thoughts and do those actions , no matter how awkward it feels or how silly it seems. You are simply intentionally programming your subconscious . The weird incongruent feeling that pops up is what it feels like when your subconscious protests. Laughter is…
This is super simple. Use your conscious mind to program your unconscious mind. Do this by deciding how you want to think and act, and then consciously think those thoughts and do those actions , no matter how awkward it feels or how silly it seems. You are simply intentionally programming your subconscious . The weird incongruent feeling that pops up is what it feels like when your subconscious protests. Laughter is…
So, reprogramming how your brain works is 'super simple'??
The idea is to reframe your worries as either teaching experiences, or as silly/easy to overcome.
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So, reprogramming how your brain works is 'super simple'??
Yep! You’re doing it all the time by deciding what to put into it!
People who suffer should have hope, but telling them it is 'super simple' sets them up for a nasty fall. It's a battle against years of habits.
Meditation can help you get meta on the process so that you can watch yourself getting worried and recognize it as something that is of the mind. As you start to see the patterns on how worry develops in your mind, you can start to choose your response. Once you can choose your response, you can decide if you want to take action or if you want to let them go. Once you are outside of the worry spiral and see it for wh…