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Re: Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by tonyedgecombe »

cncrnd wrote: post #137
throwaway713 wrote: post #37

Before we got married, my wife said she would move with me to California if I ever got a good offer from a major tech company. This year I got an amazing job offer, and my wife threw a giant fit, told me she's not coming, and said "I took a gamble and lost. I never thought you would actually get an offer". Now she's refusing to get a job, wants me to continue paying for our house that she's living in on the east coas…

I would say that even if she has a 180 degree change of mind and wants to go to the Bay Area, you should still opt for divorce. You have uncovered that your partner is childish and irrational. I will also say this since no one else is: now is the best time to get divorced from a financial perspective, as your earnings are about to go up. Get out now and find someone you want to be with for decades to come...

childish and irrational

Aren't we all.

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Post by imhoguy »

jageen wrote: post #43

I fail two interviews one is from Google and one is from Facebook. now I am rethinking about my ability towards coding and algorithms.

I dropped Google interviews twice in the middle. Most of work in FANG is... boring as everywhere, just a few do super cool stuff. And brands cool aids are not for me. World is full of other interesting and flexible places with challenges. Think about your ability to apply your skills to make people lifes' around you better.

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Post by _b8r0 »

sus_007 wrote: post #284
_b8r0 wrote: post #200

A few days ago last year, my heart imploded. We still don't know what caused it. We don't know if it'll come back (I've had a shitty couple of months recently with the same symptoms but they went away at the end of last week), and I had major knee problems at the same time. Still working on improving my health, but coming to terms with this being a part of life rather than something I'll get over completely. If anyth…

I firmly believe that no matter how healthy you think you are, how young & fit you feel today, you should never underestimate the complexity of human body biology. It is unpredictable and there's nothing we can do about it, but try our best to minimize the risks. So sorry to hear about your misfortune. How is the recovery going ?

It's more management than recovery, sadly. But I'm at the point where I'm getting on with living with it as best as I can.

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Post by WhompingWindows »

sus_007 wrote: post #333
mlevental wrote: post #332

Earlier quoted context omitted.

lol like i*o is more rewarding than sports. personally I'd trade imo medals for being cheered by hundreds/thousands at a football game any day.

You wouldn't do so if you came to know that those friends of mine are attending Ivy league colleges while I recently dropped out of my mid-tier state university because I didn't find it time-effective, and ofc finances. Now, you would again argue that there are many factors that come into college admission, and I absolutely agree. But, what disappoints me is I was academically & extracurricular-wise far more superior…

Ivy League is overrated, trust me here. I got a MUCH better value in my state university for graduate school than I did spending $40k (had numerous merit scholarships) per year on an elite education which is highly impersonal and un-tailored. Those schools are businesses and you can provide one of their products(learning CS) to yourself. Good on you, don't worry about not going to those very overpriced schools, which are increasingly the playground of the rich and the narrow few who get there based on merit. I knew many, many kids who got there on sports rides or on daddy's donations and when it came time to make comments in class, they were silent or contributed the banal minimum.

Re: Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by csomar »

In no particular order:

- You can't travel enough. I visited 9 new countries in the last 12 months. Way too little.

- Try to experience new things instead of just seeing and selfi-ing them. [ If you go to a new country, go to the rough edges of the city. Go to events but also to night clubs. Talk to people. Go with them on a trip. (Don't do crazy things and don't harm yourself. I'm not suggesting stupid behavior). ] [ If you try a new dish, try it again at another restaurant. Learn the recipe. Try to cook it ]. etc...

- Push yourself. As much as you can. Don't set expectations. I've learned that expectations are what makes you burn out not hard work.

- It's high time to learn a new language. I master 3 and can understand 4. I'd say you should at least speak 5 fluently and understand 8.

- The reason most people are poor/struggle is because they choose to. The reason some people are poor is because they are in a transitional phase. (Barring health conditions and quantum randomness)

- Money is very easy to make. But you only realize that once you master the skills/processes to make it flow.

Re: Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by archenemy »

icc97 wrote: post #134

After 8 years I've finally come to the end of struggling with working remotely. I'm going back to 2 hour daily commutes. The flexibility of remote work can be a real problem. It causes arguments because you don't have a 3rd party to blame for when you have to be in work or not.

seems like you didn't have that much 'flexibility' if you had to argue each diversion with your company. it's not the hours, it's the results.

Re: Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by kaybe »

pdelgallego wrote: post #183
kaybe wrote: post #162

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I can recommend growing a handful of chilli plants as a substitute. They can last several years if you protect them from frost and are remarkably resistant against problems.

I would like to hear more.

I sent you an email.

Re: Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?

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Post by deathanatos »

dzek69 wrote: post #194
deathanatos wrote: post #55

* It doesn't matter what you set your desired location to in LinkedIn. Recruiters are going to look at what you've done in the past, and assume you want more of that.

Not true. I've written I'd like to learn Python someday, and I got an offer to bacame team leader of Python dev team.

YMMV. The question was what has the past 12 months taught you, and that's what I've learned. I continue to get stuff that doesn't even match the basic preferences LinkedIn knows about, let alone the free-standing text in the profile. (I've never had anyone reach out indicate that they've read that, and have something related.)

Python appears to be somewhat popular, so what you say isn't terribly surprising. I'm trying to break a very common mold.

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