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Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by carheadrest »

noname123 wrote: post #28

Usually on this site and Quora, when people have a post like yours, the posters usually offer a piece of advice, that in my humble opinion, advices are useless because usually they say more about the advice-giver, what they wish they could've done when they were younger (doctors/lawyers who studied hard to make bank, advising all students to have fun when they're young but how did they get there?), or tout their own…

I really like it. It's something I aspire to do but cannot. Partly, it's hard, because being a female you constantly monitor the distance between yourself and a friend and adjust accordingly. This might be too uncomfortable to bear through. I tried it today and it worked though. Can I send this to friends? Have you posted this anywhere like on FB so I could share? Thanks!

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by zeroer »

MichailP wrote: post #194
zeroer wrote: post #181

> I can ask my brother for money > we have a trash relationship Do you have a trash relationship because you've asked him for money too many times?

This comment just irritated the hell out of me. Who are you to pass judgement on people you don't know? Like we all live in a just universe [1], and everything bad that is part of your life is your fault, including bad relationships with people. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Just-world_hypothesis

I didn't pass judgement on anybody, but I understand how the question could come off that way. It's more that I just have a suspicion that the asshole brother probably has a very different story to tell. But, we'll never know.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by zacharycohn »

daveloyall wrote: post #201
zacharycohn wrote: post #158

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You could come join us at 18F or USDS. :)

Waiting to see what the next administration does with ya.

18F is not tied to the white house, so there should be no changes when the next administration arrives, no matter who it is.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by peatmoss »

chadgeidel wrote: post #240
humanrebar wrote: post #218

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> It's like church, but without the god thing. That's like saying it's like an omelette without eggs or soup without water.

"Going to church" is much more than worship of a god-being. Being part of a community is important. Church helps with that.

This is absolutely what I mean--having a group that cuts across a different set of sociodemographic characteristics than I otherwise encounter regularly. The shared struggle of the whole thing also makes it a pretty close-knit group.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by Ghassan100 »

I went through this and yes I've been there. I found that: 1- helping others, volunteering, the homeless that need us but we constantly ignore, and much more. There are lots of causes that can give you a profound sense of being, purpose and go into feeding your own well being. Surprise surprise, we are all human beings after all and it pays to be less selfesh.

2- find your passion and get the time to follow it and do something about it.

3- It took me a long time to realize; and when I did it was a profound moment for me; that all it takes to have an impact in the world is just to be me, the good giving caring me. I don't need to be a superman, nor a celebrity and no not Elon Musk or any other. Just good old me.

Hope this helps from my heart to you.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by Ghassan100 »

I went through this and yes I've been there. I found that: 1- helping others, volunteering, the homeless that need us but we constantly ignore, and much more. There are lots of causes that can give you a profound sense of being, purpose and go into feeding your own well being. Surprise surprise, we are all human beings after all and it pays to be less selfesh.

2- find your passion and get the time to follow it and do something about it.

3- It took me a long time to realize; and when I did it was a profound moment for me; that all it takes to have an impact on the works is just to be me, the good giving caring me. Indon't need to be superman, nor a celebrity and no not Elon Musk or any other. Just good old me.

Hope this helps from my heart to you.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by Joof »

niccaluim wrote: post #213
Joof wrote: post #176

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Acid is a good bit different from drinking though. You won't get addicted.

Experiences differ on this point.

Tolerance builds so quickly that it literally won't work taken too close together. There aren't physical cravings either.

I feel that it could certainly be done too frequently, but it's very resistant to being addictive. I suspect it would be easier to get addicted to tylonal. I can't comment on other research chemicals, which are often sold under the label of LSD.

Alcohol is well-known to be addictive and has organizations such as alcoholics anonymous to get help.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by djkrudy »

noir_lord wrote: post #211
djkrudy wrote: post #115

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In 1668 Francesco Redi disproved the theory that flies spontaneously generated from rotting meat, a theory originally proposed by Aristotle. Since that time, popular science has just shifted that theory farther and farther away from the common era. When carefully and objectively observed, rotting meat does not emit maggots, but since nobody around to observe meat, matter, molecules or atoms billions of years ago... w…

God isn't scary since he doesn't exist, The things people who believe in God do are scary but then the things people who don't believe in God do are also scary - or to be blunt I fear the People who believe in a God a lot more than the God they believe in since I have evidence for the former. There is no evidence of God in any of the ways that any of the religious texts describe (and not in any way they don't describ…

Ah, no. I must have not made myself clear somewhere. God of the gaps philosophy is mirrored by modern science as a sort of "Nothingness blob of the gaps". Its the same type of thing though: If we haven't figured out how it works, then its some random nothingness blob that happened to...even though that is not how it behaves naturally...blah blah blah (Like flies on meat). Basically just listen for when NDeT almost lets his words hum out of his mouth, he's trying to dramatize his words so you get caught up in the majesty of the things he's describing instead of questioning them. So if God of the gaps is so bad, its comical that Nothingness blob of the gaps passes your rigorous critical analysis. I believe in the Bible , not "God of the gaps" or the "Nothingness blob"

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by djkrudy »

arisAlexis wrote: post #316
noir_lord wrote: post #211

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God isn't scary since he doesn't exist, The things people who believe in God do are scary but then the things people who don't believe in God do are also scary - or to be blunt I fear the People who believe in a God a lot more than the God they believe in since I have evidence for the former. There is no evidence of God in any of the ways that any of the religious texts describe (and not in any way they don't describ…

I gave up these arguments since none of the two will change his mind ever.

Probably wise!

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Post by daveloyall »

zacharycohn wrote: post #343
daveloyall wrote: post #201

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Waiting to see what the next administration does with ya.

18F is not tied to the white house, so there should be no changes when the next administration arrives, no matter who it is.

18F are still contractors, right? So you are kidding? :)

    > "...there should be no changes when
    > the next administration arrives..."
I understand that you are referring to some specific small category of changes. You're saying that no new president can administratively close 18f. Got it.

But, for the English word 'changes', there will be some.

If you had to place a bet regarding the future size of the USDS, what factors would you consider when choosing where to put your money?

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