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Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

#331
You said you are not happy. This will help you:

1) Eat chocolate 2) Sports. Do something outside, even if it is walking 3) Find a girlfriend or dating 4) Watch a movie 5) Do something exciting every month 6) Take weekend breaks, go somewhere 7) Sleep 7-8 hours 8) Listen music during work 9) Imagine yourself in 5 years, make that plan.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Usually on this site and Quora, when people have a post like yours, the posters usually offer a piece of advice, that in my humble opinion, advices are useless because usually they say more about the advice-giver, what they wish they could've done when they were younger (doctors/lawyers who studied hard to make bank, advising all students to have fun when they're young but how did they get there?), or tout their own…

Maybe it's a personality thing. I regret having one too many of the fights you'd like to have. Not all ended friendships but some of them did and although I miss none of the ones I lost - because I don't/didn't regard them as true friends - I still think that I've lost more than I gained.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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You aren't forced to. You could always choose to be in poverty instead, if you don't care to do produce any wealth.

If I put a gun to your head, I'm not forcing you to do anything - you can always choose the bullet. That market economy is running only on voluntary trade is one of the biggest and weirdest misconception that's being spread. Most of the transactions we make are ones we cannot reasonably choose not to make. We can at best choose the vendor we're dealing with.

I think those two things are different despite them both being coercive. Most civilizations have always frowned on the equivalent of holding a gun to someone's head, but not the idea that you need to work to survive.

But let's suppose that force is involved in a market economy. I would agree that it should be there. And its because I'm not from a wealthy background. I've worked with the people that would benefit from this kind of change, and a large majority of them would waste it.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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This is one of those puzzling comments that I can't tell if tongue-in-cheek or actually serious. I like it! Life's too serious and people need some chaotic ambiguity to spice it up. > Don't work hard. Try to reduce your productivity. Sounds good. Most people aren't as productive as they think they are, imho. I'd rather not buy into their facade and just be as productive as I need to be when I need to be! > Don't work…

I abolished the world order- thermo-dynamics is gone- you are free, no need to eat the sun anymore and to fight your way up in the layer of sun-eating-refinement order. If you want to abolish something, at least make a suggestion with what you want to replace it.

This is an odd thing to say in a place where disruption for disruption's sake is the order of business. No one wants to think about how their productivity-enhancing products destroy ways of life without offering a good replacement.

Odd in a good way. Yes, let's smash capitalism, but let's not replace it with a more oppressive system, as often happens in revolutions.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Yes. I did a masters in computer science, and realised I do not want to be an office person either. It doesn't make me feel fulfilled. I want to actually help people, not help companies make money. I since started studying again and did the medical school entrance exam equivalent in my country and got a borderline acceptable score on my first go. I find out early August I have a place or not starting September (4 mor…

Companies have to help people at least to the extend that they are wiling to give them money. But of course the degrees to which companies actually help people or just satisfy a luxury need differs.

I see your craving for helping people directly and not through the intermediary of a company. In my case I want to start a company or join a company that actually helps people because I feel the leverage that a company has to help people is a lot bigger. Nevertheless , the work of doctors is of course essential.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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I've been feeling this way since middle school. I didn't really have any bad subjects in school, so I figured I could do whatever interested me professionally, but nothing really strongly appealed to me other than a paycheck large enough to eat out whenever I wanted. I discovered programming was pretty fun, now I'm a software engineer, and I'm just saving money for..... something . I don't know what. I've been trying…

this hits really close to home. i know that Musk's success/influence isn't overnight but still feel lost since i'm way behind compare to where he was at my age. it feels like it's impossible to catch up..

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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Stack Overflow is definitely the best way to understand life through other perspectives

SO = Significant Other, i.e., a partner.

It makes more sense calling Stack Overflow "SO" than calling your spouse that.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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post #337

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SO = Significant Other, i.e., a partner.

It makes more sense calling Stack Overflow "SO" than calling your spouse that.

Depends who spends more time with you in your life ;) I'm with my SO more than I read the website, for sure (which is minimal or rarely).

Also, the term "significant other" can mean more than spouse (which implies marriage): [boy|girl]friend, life partner, close-friend-kind-of-person, etc.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

#339

I'm 29 years old, I come from a CS background, I'm not religious and I've felt that way as well. Like most of us here. Watching this course has helped me a great deal: "Personality and its transformations", by Jordan B. Peterson at University of Toronto. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL22J3VaeABQAhrMCQUa6s... Here's a TEDx talk by the same professor that can serve as a glimpse of the course: https://www.youtu…

I watched about half of the first lecture, very interesting. What insights can one draw from these series of lectures? Depending on the insights, I'm trying to see if the time invested is personally worthwhile.

Re: Ask HN: When you feel stuck in life

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PROJECTS ! You should embark on side projects. They will teach you so much more than school ever will, and they will reward you in a way that nothing else really can. If your projects can make money too, then that's icing on the cake. You will be free. I'm 25 years old with no degree, taught myself to code for the past 2 years and got turned down for thousands of developer jobs. I ended up working in a factory doing…

This makes us at WooCommerce very happy!
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