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Post by Aeolun »

jmcgough wrote: post #300
Mizza wrote: post #269

Earlier quoted context omitted.

So much of this. React is like one step forwards, 10 steps backwards. Mixing markup and logic, adding a whole front-end compiler, needing imports from third parties to re-implement basic browser functionality - for what? So that users have to see a loading spinner and their back button doesn't work any more? I'm 90% sure it's an accidental conspiracy to keep front end developer salaries high. Talking to older heads,…

React is most useful if you have really complex state that you're trying to manage and reason about. It's probably overused because people who don't need it are just doing whatever's trendy without understanding trade-offs, but it's a godsend for UIs that need hundreds of components, persistent state, etc. IMO people often add Redux to it before a project really needs it. There's no need to mix markup and logic, a go…

Modern JavaScript is better than old JavaScript, but it’s still JS, and I’m missing basically all features from other languages that make programming great.

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Post by Aeolun »

abledon wrote: post #256
legohead wrote: post #219

I don't like the new way of doing things. Kubernetes, node, react, terraform... Everything is more complicated and also more fragile. I feel like the software world is collectively mad and I'm sitting on the outside asking "wtf is going on?" Or maybe I'm the crazy one.

I’m playing with the idea of quitting software , getting a softskills excel/MS word gov job for equal pay then only programming on spare time in elixir and tensor flow for fun side side projects —- current web dev environment is ridiculous !

My issue with this is I think I’d quickly grow frustrated with all the shit software I’d have to use.

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Post by pyronite »

AnIdiotOnTheNet wrote: post #201

Everything worth doing and about half of the things that aren't. If I had to pick one thing, it'd be my weight. I've lost 150lbs and have been keeping it off for years. People who've never lost a significant amount of weight (north of 50lbs) probably can't understand what it is like to have to fight your body every day of your life. I have to avoid temptation as much as possible, which means keeping only enough food…

> They never tell you that part about losing weight, that the damage to your metabolism is already done and will never function normally again.

This New York Times reporting on weight loss and metabolism is highly relevant: https://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/02/health/biggest-loser-weig...

The study within strongly suggests exactly what you're saying: massive weight loss results in a massive loss in metabolism. The difference in metabolism is on the order of hundreds of calories per day.

I've lost a combined 150 pounds throughout my life and I'm down 80 pounds from my max. I am not in the exact same situation as you but I feel close. I, too, limit my calories to roughly 1,600 a day.

I wish this topic was studied more and the science was settled. If the study is accurate, what is there to be done about it other than learning to live with a significant caloric deficit for the rest of our lives? This is an issue that potentially affects so many people yet is so rarely discussed. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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Post by Aeolun »

I think I care too much. I want to hit the deadlines, I want to make boss and the client happy, and have a fulfilling personal life on top of that.

There’s too much, and something has to give eventually.

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Post by stsmith816 »

jimmy1 wrote: post #168

A vicious cycle of procrastination and being easily distracted. When I finally sit down to do something I am unable to complete meaningful progress (meaningful to me). I have a laundry list of things I wanted to accomplish by now, and haven't, and it's a growing weight on me.

Have you considered that maybe you simply aren't as interested in the things you want to accomplish as you think you are? I ask because I struggle with the same thing and that question is really what I'm asking myself now too. I'm a mechanical engineer and I generally like building and designing things...to a point. I enjoy it at work but by the end of the day, I just don't have the motivation to keep trying to build things even if I'm superficially interested in it at a high level. I'm probably just not as into as I thought I was. At least not enough to do it at work and then at home.

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Post by andrewingram »

headcanon wrote: post #200
username77 wrote: post #84

I’m 30 and haven’t really had much dating experience. It boggles my mind how people are already married by 30. How does dating work? Serious question.

I'm guessing because you're on this site, you might have a professional life and/or hobbies that skew towards the introverted and solitary, or at the very least are predominantly male-dominated. Ultimately you have to find activities that allow you to meet a more diverse group of people, and when doing so, project a general air of confidence and sociability. Keep doing it until it becomes natural, it may take years.…

One interesting gotcha, which people frequently find baffling, is that it's possible to take up hobbies which involve a lot of interaction with members of the opposite sex, but don't lend themselves well to actually getting to know them. I mean this in the sense that if you already struggle with connecting with people, just being around a greater volume of people won't fix that problem.

I've been doing salsa somewhere between 2 and 5 nights a week more-or-less continuously for the last 6 years. By those who know me, i'm generally regarded as one of the best relative to my experience level (this is something I really struggle to accept, but I hear it enough to be willing to share it), and the vast majority of my friends are women. All of this has had zero impact on my confidence with women as far as dating or relationships are concerned, or even just casual purely platonic conversation with either women or men.

My takeaway from this is, that if you are going to invest in an activity for the purpose of meeting people and building confidence, you'll want to to choose an activity that actually throws you into the situations you struggle with. So now i'm looking for a parallel interest, improv is actually pretty appealing.

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Post by alexpotato »

abledon wrote: post #253
alexpotato wrote: post #149

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I was a "late bloomer" when it came to dating and didn't really start dating at all until I moved to NYC in 2007 (age 26). Here is what happened for me: - Used Match then POF then OKC - Probably went on about 150 dates over the course of about 4-5 years. Sounds like a lot but averages out to 1 every 2 weeks. In reality it was probably 4 to 5 over a two week span every couple of months. Most of the time was just sendi…

That game author had a breakdown a couple years ago and wrote another book contradicting the first one lol

Towards the end of the first book he turns it into a cautionary tale about how it can all become an obsession leading to negative outcomes.
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