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We have an iMessages WiFi AP that only allows iMessage and FaceTime. Very easy to set up and you can then turn off general purpose internet without ostracizing them from their friends.
I think OP was saying the most damaging content is arriving via iMessage.
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>ongratulations, you're raising future disgruntled outcast class of people who are not integrated with the society. This society is dying, nearly dead. Anyone who is integrated with it will die by extension. Only lunatics would want to be integrated with it. This society can't even be bothered to make more humans so that it can continue into the future... it wants to be dead. My children aren't outcast, they have fri…
Society is really fine! I live among millions of people every day, and people are genuinely kind and nice on average. It's up to you how you want to perceive the world, but I wouldn't want my neighbours to ever think people around them are lunatics and etc. I understand you're coming from a very American-specific point of view, which is very hard for me to comprehend. Growing up, I absolutely never had to worry (and…
Any healthy, long-term viable society has to prioritize one task above all others... making the replacement people that will be society once the current people die. Your society (if you choose to claim it) doesn't do this. Sub-replacement fertility. It's dying because of this. If you think that's fine, go for it.
>I live among millions of people every day
Sure. And each generation is about half the size of the previous. It will look fine, even crowded for awhile yet.
>I understand you're coming from a very American-specific point of view,
This is global. China has sub-replacement fertility. Korea and Japan have sub-replacement fertility. Europe has it, South America has it, India may have finally crept below replacement, but if it hasn't yet it will next year or the year after. This is everywhere. There's not a hidden corner of the world where it's not happening.
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Gorilla in the room are other f*ng parents. You can prevent as much as you want but then kids go to school nd everyone else has accounts they should not have or devices they should not have and your kids are angry at you because now you are the bad guy.
Yup. "Why didn't my kid get invited to that birthday? Oh, it was organized on Snapchat..." We have a no phones in the bedroom and no phones past a certain time rule, but disconnecting entirely makes one a social pariah.
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The closest thing I can find is in the floods cause rain sense, so please post the links To put this in perspective, people said the same moral panic about tv and that has also been rigorously proven false yet disagreed with by laymen.
Radio was the original moral panic. Then television. Then video games. Now we're on to social media. But this time feels different. Why? Because even the adults are noticing they can't control themselves. Their attention in other things is suffering. Our brains are being trained to seek short dopamine hits from reels instead of entering a real flow state that solves fulfilling challenges. Social media reel scrolling…
Well tv was looking for ways to attract people and also game makers.
But it wasn’t like it is with social media YT specifically designed to suck as much attention as possible. Games nowadays are include much more addictive mechanics like loot boxes.
1. Children don’t need a cell phone until high school.
2. Block social media at the house with a PiHole.
3. When your kids get sad about how unfair is it they aren’t popular or don’t have access like other kids remind them they aren’t paying for it.
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It's been a challenge to me to figure out what's too much. If you let them, they will spend hours watching YouTube shorts, or tiktoks. I've removed YouTube from our TV for that reason. Also the devices are locked down using Google family, plus the screen pin code is only known by the parents. One of the most wholesome digital experiences I've seen is setting up a Minecraft server, and watching the kids have a build b…
It is usually some 'set hours' of device time? Also, wondering what was meant by wholesome digital experience (positive?) in going through setting up a server with your kids?
I set up the server, they connected and played on it. Fun to hear them yelling at each other.
I wish I had something helpful to add. My teenager has been involved with inappropriate texting with an assuming friend and the textual contents were, quite frankly, disturbing. Therapists say that this is normal these days. Our teen has refused to stop being friends with this person and even suggested that we just get over it. To that end, her phone is locked down with ScreenTime limits but she's somehow getting mor…
Therapists can be super hit-and-miss. Like schoolteachers, they may seem like they should be domain experts, but they're often just normal people working a job. And it's extremely frustrating to think you're doing the right thing by going to get help (be it for yourself or others), only to be told that there's nothing to be done, not even a suggestion. I wish you and your family luck!
This is unpopular but I don’t gives a shit: 1. Children don’t need a cell phone until high school. 2. Block social media at the house with a PiHole. 3. When your kids get sad about how unfair is it they aren’t popular or don’t have access like other kids remind them they aren’t paying for it.
Do you really think an average 10 year old will understand what you mean by that?
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TV is vastly different, it’s tailored to demographics of watchers and at the time the understanding of psychology when it comes to marketing and retention was substantially less developed than it is now.
These days, it also serves to encourage people to build worldviews around fictional scenarios much the same as social media encourages building worldviews around fictional information.