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Look up the past experience of new management and the makeup of the company they were at. It's likely that new management was brought in to bring the same kind of management they were doing. i.e. if they outsource engineering at the previous company, they're probably going to do it to yours. This is your way of finding out what is coming before they actually announce it.
If a sexual harassment lawsuit comes out against the company or people in the company and anyone is even partially guilty - no matter who they are - fire anyone involved and replace them even faster. If you're an employee that is not involved with the issue, leave the company ASAP. It's unlikely the company will do the former until it's too late and thus you will see every possible metric plummet.
If management has a tendency to not replace people very quickly - they are either never replacing them or they just don't give a shit. Either way, get out.
If management is making their calendars private - they don't value transparency no matter what they say. Something is probably happening that they don't want you to know - and it's never something good.
I need to study technical interview problems on a more regular basis if I want to get a new job. Big Company interviews are harder than ever.
$500k/yr is kind of obtainable in the bay area for a single earner. It's also the only way I'll ever afford the region (in terms of a family w/ a home). I need to start thinking about alternative plans.
I've learned that I need to optimize for financial gains at a much faster rate than I have. I'm now giving up on every other goal for the moment because they just don't matter in comparison. I've realized now I should've held out for better offers and studied harder last year. My $30k/yr jump in comp could've been $100k and I should've studied harder and interviewed at more big companies. I've also learned I should not stay at a company for a year in hopes to "learn something". Just optimize for $$$ because experience will follow no matter where you go.
If your partner is a drama queen or just gets upset all the time (short of you giving 100% of everything you have to them) - it's definitely them and not you. You have to let them grow up and focus on your own shit. You can't let another person suck all your energy away - they should be giving you energy and not taking it all away.
If you've been waiting to get something for a decade or what not - the inevitable getting of it is probably going to be wildly underwhelming. You spent too long waiting for it. :( In my case, it was a motorcycle. I had wanted one for 8+ years but inevitably when I did get one - it was and still is underwhelming. Unfortunately, I don't get to ride it much now anyway since I'm so focused on studying and don't see that changing for a while.
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I am really curious how you did that. The negativity on social media and politics today is really affecting my mental health and I don't know how to switch it off
It took some time and effort. We started with TV about a year ago. I was talking to my wife and I mentioned how today I watched some news and some shows and after I finished I couldn't remember what I had watched but that I was in a negative mood. I told her I was going to turn off the TV and save the money per year. She said okay, and I did. For a few weeks I would sit down to watch shows etc, and then realized I co…
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You didn't told us what it taught you.
It taught me that people react differently in stressful situations than they say they are going to. Also, when I was growing up, my parents always said "divorce is wrong; you can always make a marriage work if you try hard enough". Interestingly, they've completely flipped on that opinion now that they've heard how I'm being treated, but I guess I'm still "brainwashed". If I didn't have these irrational moral qualms,…
A twisted version of Stockholm Syndrome, trust me. That nagging feeling that says, "I don't want to rock the boat and be the bad guy", will not move you forward in life.
Doing the long-term mental gymnastics of "Things will get better if X happens or Y turns up", is just wasting more time.
Edit: Please don't read this as negative. But having been there, and having spent way too long pondering the situation... It breaks my heart to hear of those currently living through it.
- No matter how much transparent, rewarding and fair an organization thinks it is, just producing great work is never enough to get what you deserve in return. Ask for what you think you deserve, be it a promotion, a raise, more responsibility, etc. Don't wait for it to be handed to you.
- No matter how much fair a company is, if you are not vocal enough about your contributions, you'll not get as much recognition as you deserve. That or you need someone to do that for you like your manager or colleague but that is very rare.
- If people you look up to leaves the company, seriously re-think if you want to continue there. People leaving no matter how close to you will not badmouth the company so you won't know something is wrong.
- If a founder leaves, get out ASAP and look for something better.
- If you are not a founder and are the best person at your job in the company, get out and work with people you think are better than you.
- You are worth much more than you think. If you want to make more money, you almost always can.
Some self-promo: I run a weekly newsletter with lessons gathered from HN https://lessonsofhn.com Here are some things I learned in the past 12 months: * economics are more useful to me than politics. Stop reading news on politics, but rather financial news * my biggest flaws are lack of patience and a big ego. Was hard to see this even though most of my life problems originated from these two * sleep is damn importan…
Did you ever do Show HN of this project?
Before we got married, my wife said she would move with me to California if I ever got a good offer from a major tech company. This year I got an amazing job offer, and my wife threw a giant fit, told me she's not coming, and said "I took a gamble and lost. I never thought you would actually get an offer". Now she's refusing to get a job, wants me to continue paying for our house that she's living in on the east coas…
Quit earlier. I stuck around in a screwed up project until I couldn't stand talking to anyone else involved, I would have been way better off if I'd committed to leaving about four months earlier than I did - when I could see that the fundamental requirements and plans were being faked for management, and everyone else was OK with that. By the time I did leave I was having actual nightmares about work.
I learned this lesson 9 years ago, then implemented it last year. Steady paychecks are nice, but plan so you don't need them to live month to month if you can swing it. Once the company turns sour and you're always angry, it's past time to move on to something fresher. I took a nice 3 month sabbatical and it was the best summer since college. Life is too short.