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Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

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post #16

I always start the sentence with... "I know this is weird, but..." It helps me get to the actual point of direct confrontation, but by blaming it on myself it helps absorb some of the awkward. Truly though, I hate it when people touch my laptop's screen!

There is nothing weird about wanting to protect your eye sight. This is one of those commonalities that does not require explanation. Its a shared experience: nobody('s eyes) likes looking at smudged up screens.

Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

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post #29
post #26

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Let out a little scream like a madman, "aaaahhh! no touch screen!" Silliness works. Or my favorite: "Touching my computer is like touching my penis. Seriously."

That is definitly one to remember. And it is actually good advice, making a joke out of it will make the other person feel less bad.

Unless they keep touching the screen. Then it could get awkward.

Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

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post #26
post #16

I always start the sentence with... "I know this is weird, but..." It helps me get to the actual point of direct confrontation, but by blaming it on myself it helps absorb some of the awkward. Truly though, I hate it when people touch my laptop's screen!

Let out a little scream like a madman, "aaaahhh! no touch screen!" Silliness works. Or my favorite: "Touching my computer is like touching my penis. Seriously."

I don't think your favorite line will work if it's a female co-worker though !

Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

#34
post #15

Wow I'm hearing tons of complicated ways to avoid direct conversation. If you pay several thousand dollars for a machine, I'm pretty sure you get to decide to gets to do what with it. If it is your companies screen, you are still responsible for it, so the same thing applies. Next time it happens, just politely explain how you feel. There's no need for the passive aggressive solutions that a few people are suggesting…

The goal of the better suggestions isn't to avoid confrontation, but to remind that there are ways to make requests that are more and less likely to get you what you want. Accusatory, sarcastic, and snide tones are well into the "less likely to get you what want", zone; making yourself out to be the one with the problem, and framing the request as asking a co-worker to do you a small favor is much more likely to have a positive result.

Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

#35
post #29

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That is definitly one to remember. And it is actually good advice, making a joke out of it will make the other person feel less bad.

Unless they keep touching the screen. Then it could get awkward.

As long as your laptop doesn't increase in size, you should not worry

Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

#36
Well, I would just tell them not to do it, because the screen gets dirty and you have to either clean it all the time, or you can't see anything on it. It's not rude to say something like "Well, I'm sorry, but please, don't touch the screen, it gets dirty, ok?". At least I think so.

Of course this is most likely very depending on the culture and place where do you live.

Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

#37
post #16

I always start the sentence with... "I know this is weird, but..." It helps me get to the actual point of direct confrontation, but by blaming it on myself it helps absorb some of the awkward. Truly though, I hate it when people touch my laptop's screen!

It's etiquette that a lot of people don't know. For example, most people who don't work in technology (and a few who do) don't see a need to look away when you're typing a password - just as most people who don't work in (insert profession here) don't know about (insert profession based behavior expectation here).

Re: Ask HN: Trivial etiquette question - can he touch my laptop screen?

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post #22
post #15

Wow I'm hearing tons of complicated ways to avoid direct conversation. If you pay several thousand dollars for a machine, I'm pretty sure you get to decide to gets to do what with it. If it is your companies screen, you are still responsible for it, so the same thing applies. Next time it happens, just politely explain how you feel. There's no need for the passive aggressive solutions that a few people are suggesting…

The reason people have all these passive aggressive solutions is because they feel kind of embarrassed that they have such an attachment to an inanimate object. It's like telling someone not to touch your baby. I know most people will claim that it's just the cost of the item, but in reality I think it's that they're addicted to that little window into the machine. I know I am.

It's more likely because you don't want to have to clean fingerprints off the screen.
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