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Re: Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help

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Post by samh748 »

coolhoody wrote: post #3

The funny thing about this — is that quite a lot of people can help others — while not being able to help themselves. I had a startup idea — for people in need of such help helping and motivating each other — noticing that I can solve rather complex problems of others while being a prize moron within my own code block. Didn't follow through due to d. My advice to you is: 1. Don't be discouraged if this dies in 'New',…

You don't realize how much you needed to laugh your butt off until it happens.

Re: Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help

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Post by throwaway81523 »

samh748 wrote: post #24
throwaway81523 wrote: post #19

> To get to my point, I want to start some kind of service/platform where people can come to talk things through and have a sustained conversation about their experience of feeling lost, confused, stuck. If I understand what you're imagining, there are already subreddits for every variety of that. In the old days there was alt.angst on usenet, but it is likely defunct or taken over with spam by now. There are or were…

I thought that was what I was imagining too, but I realized that what I'm offering isn't simply "a place to talk about your problems". What's missing in these communities, I think, is a particular level of expertise and understanding of personal development, our ego, personality differences, etc. It's hard to describe, that's why I don't really know how to pitch my idea succinctly.

Do you mean you want a discussion site with therapists or psychologists doing AMAs or leading group discussions or something like that? Or do you mean you want a more sophisticated user community, something like Math Overflow for self-help practitioners? The first seems like mostly a matter of how to pay the professonals, the second is likely to be more self-organized and closed and probably exists in many forms under the radar already.

Re: Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help

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Post by samh748 »

justajot wrote: post #26

I can identify with much of what you wrote, especially surrounding the desire to help others. Noting another comment on how you don't want to deal with the "serious stuff," I'm highly recommending you look into the coaching profession. It sounds to be exactly what you're looking for in terms of training. In general, therapy is designed to help people who are suffering from mental health and emotional wellness issues.…

Really appreciate the feedback. But the big problem I see with all the professions is exactly that, they are professions that end up costing way too much as a service for people who are probably struggling to afford this and that. Also, the fact that they are professional services makes the barrier higher for people who are less inclined to seek help.

My vision is to provide something very low-barrier, both in cost and accessibility in general. It'll be something I provide for free, online, and can be instrumental in helping someone who's lost to at least get a sense of where to look. Something like that. :)

Re: Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help

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Post by samh748 »

randomly123 wrote: post #32

I'm lost and confused. Don't know which way to go. Back to material science and batteries, or towards data and coding more. I used to make decisions always using the desired end points.

One thing I know is that it doesn't matter which field or topic you go into. No amount of career-searching is going to do much in making us less confused. Too often we grow up being told (explicitly or implicitly) that our jobs and careers are our identity. This screws us up big time and sets us up for a life-time of confusion, if not worse.

Maybe tell me more about your personal life. Do you live alone? Have a romantic relationship? How's your relationship with your parents? Or maybe, how do people at work see you?

Re: Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help

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Post by samh748 »

throwaway81523 wrote: post #34
samh748 wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I thought that was what I was imagining too, but I realized that what I'm offering isn't simply "a place to talk about your problems". What's missing in these communities, I think, is a particular level of expertise and understanding of personal development, our ego, personality differences, etc. It's hard to describe, that's why I don't really know how to pitch my idea succinctly.

Do you mean you want a discussion site with therapists or psychologists doing AMAs or leading group discussions or something like that? Or do you mean you want a more sophisticated user community, something like Math Overflow for self-help practitioners? The first seems like mostly a matter of how to pay the professonals, the second is likely to be more self-organized and closed and probably exists in many forms unde…

I'm thinking more like an "advice-column", where people can tell me their struggles and I'll try my best to share some perspective. It seems cheesy but I think high-quality ones are almost non-existent. And I'm confident enough in my ability to provide some real value here.

Re: Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help

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Post by samh748 »

cupcake-unicorn wrote: post #36

Get certified in Internal Family Systems therapy. You can do these trainings without being a therapist. I believe that this is going to really blow up as studies come out on its effectiveness.

Family Systems is fascinating! I've looked at it briefly and I like how it's very holistic while being grounded in research. Thanks!

Re: Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help

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Post by samh748 »

fouc wrote: post #20
coolhoody wrote: post #3

The funny thing about this — is that quite a lot of people can help others — while not being able to help themselves. I had a startup idea — for people in need of such help helping and motivating each other — noticing that I can solve rather complex problems of others while being a prize moron within my own code block. Didn't follow through due to d. My advice to you is: 1. Don't be discouraged if this dies in 'New',…

due to what? is d. short for death?

maybe depression?
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