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What does inner work mean in this context?
Changing your personality so you’re better at making money
I think for a lot of other spaces inner work means more about finding personal (and shared) values, and feeling through trauma, and finding a path for 'living and dying well'.
I'm not quite sure I follow your question, but I have to keep rediscovering that min-maxing life is not a great strategy. Trying to squeeze every bit of advantage out of what I read, how i work, where I travel, etc. is not the optimal strategy for me. Furthermore, the most successful people I've met tend to focus on doing things that they enjoy rather than on min-maxing. For me, this has meant studying philosophy, re…
The most useful psychological technique I've found is Internal family systems (IFS). If you do it with a therapist, it can be very powerful, and mind bending, like a psychedelic trip. The way it helps productivity is when I can't motivate myself to do various tasks I use IFS to explore what's going on in my brain that fuels that procrastination. It takes me to memories and dusty corners of my brain that I rarely visi…
Also as a software engineer whose always been on the analytical/intellectual side of reasoning, I prefer the psychodynamic nature IFS as opposed to modalities like CBT. Really helped open me up to being more emotionally intelligent and aware.
Something i started doing which has been invaluable has been getting a therapist. Being a founder is freaking painful at times, working on yourself is a lot more than getting good at sales, taxes, technical skills...developing leadership skills and being great at it requires an upgrade not just to your IQ but your EQ. I've got a long way to go, but i feel this has been the largest improvement to me that i've ever man…
Something i started doing which has been invaluable has been getting a therapist. Being a founder is freaking painful at times, working on yourself is a lot more than getting good at sales, taxes, technical skills...developing leadership skills and being great at it requires an upgrade not just to your IQ but your EQ. I've got a long way to go, but i feel this has been the largest improvement to me that i've ever man…
IMO, people have the wrong idea about "self development" and "personal growth" - It sounds like some new age self-help, spiritual BS. This is not self development. Self development has nothing to do with positive thinking, visualizing success or spiritual stuff. That's a load of horse shit. Real self-development involves choosing difficult goals and focusing all your energy on attaining them; learning new skills and…
IMO, people have the wrong idea about "self development" and "personal growth" - It sounds like some new age self-help, spiritual BS. This is not self development. Self development has nothing to do with positive thinking, visualizing success or spiritual stuff. That's a load of horse shit. Real self-development involves choosing difficult goals and focusing all your energy on attaining them; learning new skills and…
Tip: read a page, then click a link to get more info on any particular part. Like one big outline, skimmable I hope. Feedback welcome there, too.
The older I get, the more I have found myself prioritizing music. Making money so that I can feed my family is all well and good, but when I ask myself what is the purpose of everything, the only real answer I can find is this: to create meaningful music by integrating past traditions with my present life experience, and passing on skills and experience to my children.
I'm a lifelong engineer. I started programming when I was 12, studied computer engineering in college. But I've burned out a couple times. Most recently in 2016, burnout prompted a lot of inner work for me. At the time I was VP of engineering at the startup I founded, with a team of ten. Every day I saw how I was getting in my own way, and just how many opportunities I had to grow as a leader. But I couldn't actually…
Yes, purpose is huge to me also.
My heartfelt congratulations on your growth.