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Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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post #19

Thanks for asking and hope you are doing well! I unfortunately got dumped by a girl I was dating, lost my job and a (non-nuclear) family member while living in Manhattan, NYC. I thought I was holding up okay but once my gym shut down and social events shut down (before later transitioning to videoconference) my mental state and diet declined fast. The lack of human contact was mitigated to an extent by virtual social…

You have my sympathy re: the breakup. Why is it "Since my landlord offered no help and my lease is up" instead of " my rent is due, but I can't afford it". You make it sound like the landlord is at fault.

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Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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I've posted a bunch on inspiration during lockdown. For example, I did an episode on Nelson Mandela. Here's the audio: https://shows.acast.com/leadership-and-the-environment/episo....

Here's the text:

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Many of us are struggling living in lockdown.

Nelson Mandela has inspired me in many ways. Going beyond subsisting in captivity, he emerged from 27 years imprisoned on Robben Island---South Africa's Alcatraz---to become President.

Today's episode shares part of what I believe helped him, which I believe can help us. First, he endured 27 years. We're only a few months in, and not in a small cement prison cell with a bucket for a toilet.

More, he practiced daily habits. We can too. I describe his in this episode, I hope in ways we can learn from.

Here are a couple quotes I read in the recording, both from his autobiography:

“I attempted to follow my old boxing routine of doing roadwork and muscle-building from Monday through Thursday and then resting for the next three days. On Monday through Thursday, I would do stationary running in my cell in the morning for up to forty-five minutes. I would also perform one hundred fingertip push-ups, two hundred sit-ups, fifty deep knee-bends, and various other calisthenics.”

“I awoke on the day of my release after only a few hours’ sleep at 4:30am. February 11 was a cloudless, end-of-summer Cape Town day. I did a shortened version of my usual exercise regimen, washed, and ate breakfast. … As so often happens in life, the momentousness of an occasion is lost in the welter of a thousand details.”

For more on Mandela and daily habits, see my post, Nelson Mandela on sidchas https://joshuaspodek.com/nelson-mandela-on-sidchas.

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Beside that post, I've found acting in service of others gives more meaning, purpose, and inspiration beyond any self-care.

Whatever your situation, others can use your help. For me, my podcast costs almost nothing, but drives me to help on the environment. There is no shortage of people who could use help, in person or virtually.

"To serve is to live." -- Frances Hesselbein

Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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post #28
post #19

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You have my sympathy re: the breakup. Why is it "Since my landlord offered no help and my lease is up" instead of " my rent is due, but I can't afford it". You make it sound like the landlord is at fault.

In the UK we have a rent/mortgage holiday to protect us from these unprecedented times. I'd probably blame everything other than myself if I went from being a professional living in Manhattan to unemployed and unable to pay rent. Sometimes the carpet can just be pulled out from under us and it sucks.

It was pulled out from under the landlord, too.

Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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post #16

Really badly, but could be worse. I am entirely sure that I have moderate-serious depression since the lock down started. I rely entirely on external structure and physical separation of spaces to keep myself sane. So WFH has been disastrous for me. I have been eating worse, not working out, stopped pursuing hobbies/side projects and have been incredibly unproductive at work. Thankfully, a year of good results prior…

Anecdotally, cutting my coffee intake to near-zero levels has allowed my anxiety to simmer down. Perhaps this may help in your situation.

Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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Very good, "with fine print".

The lockdown improved the focus on myself, since there are less things to take care of.

Some work of mine ended up gathering attention from "VIP"s in my field. I've started a systematic study of new areas that I'll use for a future, major, project of mine.

Fitness is very important for me; I was able to do a reasonable, minimalist, workout at home with some equipment, therefore, although I lost some shape, I've been in an acceptable fitness state.

I suffered mostly at the beginning. It wasn't suffering in a strict sense, rather, I was unsettled. Small things, like having to mind what to touch and what not, or people's fear of the future, were definitely taxing at the beginning. Now, I don't mind anymore - I got used to, in the good, and in the bad.

"Fine print" follows.

1. I'm certainly a person who doesn't strictly need social contact, so I didn't suffer for the lack of it.

2. I also have a certain discipline. Discipline in itself is (I suppose) always hard work even for people perceived as disciplined, but I guess that for some, guidance from somebody is, at least, a soft requirement.

3. Job uncertainty is a given. I'm in a good position now, but nobody knows what will happen [to my position] in 6/12 months from now.

Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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The hardest thing for us has been the loss of public spaces -- not being able to take my 3yo son the Air and Space Museum (his favorite place), to ride the metro, or even over to Grandma's house for the afternoon is tough.

What I miss the most is being able to sit down at a Korean restaurant with friends and just EAT for two hours.

Overall, though, things are going really well. The transition to working from home was easy (half the team was already remote), I've had more time to exercise, and our company has been advocating good work-life balance throughout this whole ordeal. I have the efforts of my champion wife to thank for keeping a 3yo distracted all day while I'm at work, and that is not lost on me, either -- I'm in a good place now because I am with good people, surrounded by love.

Wishing you all the best, HN :)

Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

#37
Not good. What is really depressing is this is going to last a lot longer than I had hoped. Even more depressing is so many people just don't seem to care - all they have to do is wear masks and gloves and take some super simple precautions. People with great reach like Joe Rogan aren't helping either, not to mention dumb politicians and leaders.

For now I have a job, but nothing is certain. Also feel helpless seeing so many people suffering and not being able to help ...

Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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Okayish. I am a 'nerd' who loves 'staying indoors' and doesn't like to go in crowded areas.

Until I was forced to stay indoors for months.

I used to exercise regulary, gym/yoga/skipping/running before the lockdown.

But during the lockdown, it has all gone to hell. I eat, work and sleep. I used to watch a lot of tv shows but I cancelled all subscriptions.

But, on the other hand, I have begun writing stories. I had abandoned writing them for over a year now. In fact, I published my short story on Kindle last week. I am editing the 4 unpublished novels which I wrote and am trying to finish the 5th one right now. But it is difficult. Getting motivation is difficult.

At times, I feel anxious. And I totally understand the irony. It had never happened that I had 'gone out' in the last five years during a weekend. But now, I want to go out every other day.

Our government has started to ignore corona and they've begun opening up the country. The puppet TV news of the regime doesn't freak out people on Corona, which they did when the govt took corona seriously.

I miss cycling and going to the gym though. Yoga is a good alternative to the gym as it builds all possible muscles.

Re: Ask HN: How are you holding up?

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post #22

Years ago, I visited the zoo in Central Park in NYC and watched a polar bear, as it swam around and around in a pool. It swam in a triangle, touching the three same points on the wall of the enclosure as it made each circuit. Last month I walked around Greenwich Park in London 125 times, each time following exactly the same route. I thought about that polar bear a lot as I walked.

Thanks for this.

To me, this reads very much as something written by Kurt Vonnegut. Not exactly reassuring and not exactly depressing.

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