Read some Aldous Huxley and see if that changes you ;)
I can appreciate the fact that you reached out for advice -- thanks for that! I'm curious to know what parts of Aldous Huxley's work would present an inspiration for change here?
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#32Shit, help people like me, 30 and not really near that level of accomplishment yet. Help explain how you got there and what less motivated people could do to reach even half that. I have a decent job and make enough to travel and all, but I'm single and could certainly be higher up in the professional sense than I am at the moment. It'd be nice to know what motivates other people or what they did to get off their ass…
Or, you can learn something from reading this and realize that you're not really missing anything, because it's a distraction.
A more constructive path would be to focus on passion, follow your heart; wherever it may lead you.
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#33> loved by my family, surrounded by good friends, happily married
You got the most important thing right. Whatever you end up doing, don't forget that.
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#34Im in a similar position after selling a company last year and recognise all for emotions.
After a month of golf, I realised that I needed to be in the game to feel alive and challenged, so went back and started another company pretty quickly.
At 33 it’s way to young to “retire”. Some people could probably do it and amuse themselves with hobbies and family, but I think most people driven enough to be self made financially independent at a young age would find it hard to switch to a life of leisure overnight.
If you do return to work or entrepreneurship, doing it because you genuinely enjoy the work and challenge rather than needing the money is a good place to be. I’m enjoying my work more than I have for a long time because the motivations are completely different.
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#35[I missed the kid part, ignore the rest of this comment as it's wrong] I'm surprised no one asked about/suggested procreation? You've literally set yourself up for that, at this point of your life. If you and your spouse are unable to, you should look into adoption. The lost feeling could be from not having a real, good use of what you've built up. It's like building a kingdom but not having any people in it.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#36There is a planet to save. I think you have a lot of work ahead of you.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#37Congratulations on your life this far, you have certainly checked off everything there is in this material world. Honestly, I mean it. Your work ethic is great, as is your abilities to get you this far.
How is your faith life, do you believe in religion? As some others have alluded to, having gratitude and giving back I feel are your next steps you should consider taking. I think you are at a great time in your life to start that dialogue of faith, start giving back, start believing there is more in your life, more people you can help.
Life begins when we give back :) (and I don't doubt you haven't, but I think it's the next step for you after reading your comments).
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#38“The highest of distinctions is service to others.”
You need personal connections with meaningful care of and for people in your community. Don’t donate: put in the sweat equity, and let your life change and fill up naturally as much as your service changes and fills up your community’s and it’s people.
Get out there and make a difference in your world with a humble heart, and you’ll find that it’ll make a difference in you, too.
If you’re in the US, there are a host of things of great value you can sink years into, ranging all over the spectrum from voter registration to homeless work to volunteering for literacy in libraries to doing trail maintenance work in a national park or something. The possibilities for civic service are plentiful!
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#39[I missed the kid part, ignore the rest of this comment as it's wrong] I'm surprised no one asked about/suggested procreation? You've literally set yourself up for that, at this point of your life. If you and your spouse are unable to, you should look into adoption. The lost feeling could be from not having a real, good use of what you've built up. It's like building a kingdom but not having any people in it.
He already has a kid, he said.
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#40The problem is not that you have advantage, it is that so many do not. You find yourself in a position to assist them. To the extent that what you've accomplished cannot scale, perhaps consider scaling back. To the extent that you can scale what you've accomplished to others, pull them up too. Identify some of the systemic problems and begin solving them because your further increased wealth results from expanding the world in which you are embedded. You'll discover new riches and help build an even more fantastic and comprehensive world around yourself. There are many dynamics taking others down including some within those others but the external ones need counter action. The internal ones compassion and support which you are in a position to try and provide. More abrasively, if you have run out of ways to use your capital your deficit is in creativity. Wealth buys healthcare and a feeling that things will be okay and your excesses can be employed to systemically create such a state more broadly.