Shouldn't you adjust your expectations as the evidence comes in? If you think something should have been done differently, next time don't expect so much? By updating your priors as evidence comes in, your disappointment is reduced. I see incompetence everywhere, but I don't feel angry and depressed. One thing that I've found essential is to have a reservoir of people who are dependably competent. A few guys who can…
Well, that's where you and I differ, I suppose. It upsets me that I'm often on the other end of this incompetence, and that I am powerless to change it. My only recourse is to endure it. It feels wrong, and it bothers me.