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Guess I’m just another in the mix here, I’ve been putting out job apps for some time and thought I had a promotion coming that was given to someone else for what appears to be political reasons as I’m more qualified. At least I have more motivation to move somewhere else I suppose because being passed on for someone I have helped grow daily is just the icing on the cake and shows how blind the company is to their eve…
The things that work for me are to: find ways to be independently happy and take small steps towards that goal.
Find ways to be independently happy. I know it sounds fluffy in a industry of highly motivated and technical folks but detaching your happiness from a single job/company will make you happier in the long term. Work towards improving yourself (exercise, read, meet people who you don't normally interact with - best way is to travel). Do things that humble you, that you're an absolute beginner at.
Sam Altman has "compound self" on his list of how to be successful. I think that's very true. I often overestimate what I can do in the short term and underestimate what I can do in the long term. So take small steps to get to where you want to go and keep at it. Not only will you reach your destination before you know it, you will realize that the destination is just a by product of your journey.
I don't know if this is what you were looking for in your question, but this has worked for me so I thought I'd share.
While acknowledging the "first world problems" nature of this, post acquisition handcuffs were really difficult for me. I was bored, underleveled, and overpaid. It took me a long time to leave because I feel that taking a pay cut was doing a disservice to my children. I definitely felt trapped. I ended up leaving a chunk of money on the table for something more fulfilling. Things worked out. I'm poorer than I would b…
Do you ever wonder if you should have, instead, pursued something on the side or maybe enjoy other aspects of your life, rather than make your job your primary source of fulfillment? I'm in a similar situation.
I wouldn't say my job is my primary source of fulfillment, but it is an important part of my personal fulfillment. And part of this was the timing. I felt I was too young in my career to settle with beomg bored. That may change the next time this happens.
Reach out to me directly (contact in profile) if you want to talk more specifics. I have great sympathy for anyone in this situation, largely because it feels so foolish to be complaining and that just compounds the issue.
Many years ago when I was no longer happy with my job I began to quietly search for a new one. My current job paid well but I had hit a wall and felt I was not going to make any progress on my career if I stayed there. I ended up getting an excellent offer for a job across the country that even included relocation expenses. I was thrilled and ready to put in my two weeks notice and pack it all up except when I went t…
That's pretty much the textbook definition of a shitty wife and a shitty person. Why don't you do yourself a favor and find someone who will lift you up rather then drag you down?
The poster should have told their spouse before doing any interviewing that they were considering positions out of town. It's absolutely reasonable to say no when someone comes out of the blue with a request to move out of town. Understand all your constraints and have an open dialog with your spouse before you go interviewing.
Yes. A lot of comments here is about taking a leap to a new role/company/lifestyle. It isn't always easy to do this and often when I leaped to greener pastures, I found that the new role didn't dramatically improve my happiness. The things that work for me are to: find ways to be independently happy and take small steps towards that goal. Find ways to be independently happy. I know it sounds fluffy in a industry of h…
Also, it's recommmended just about every hour on here but So Good They Can't Ignore You covers this topic quite a bit.
Here is Derek Sivers' book notes on it: https://sivers.org/book/SoGood
But life is not a math problem, and the things that seem inflexible often turn out to be very much so. Good luck out there, and ignore most of this advice. :) Everyone has to find their own way.