31–40 of 125 posts
When in school, I wasn't able to speak 2 complete sentences when explaining something, giving presentations was simply a pain. Today, as a lecturer for different business subjects, I am not only used to talk in front of many people, no, I am even applauded for my entertaining kind of talking. And I simply ENJOY it. I never use Powerpoint and most of the time I even don't have any notes with me. How I got there? I got…
Life is hard, let's go shopping. Oh wait. Seriously, you're just exactly like the average 21 year old introvert without a girlfriend. Most of us have been there, and we didn't post about it on internet forums. Geesh. I vote against all the advice to "go see a psychotherapist". The only psychotherapy you need is to stop making excuses and get the fuck out of your room. Go meet people. Do risky stuff. Look for the brig…
My friend you need professional help. We are not psychologists nor psychiatrists. For starters the only way to meet friends is to be outgoing, being an introvert makes this very hard, but if you really want to make friends you are going to have to deal with your issues and talk to people. Believe it or not, it gets better with time and as you grow. On the other part, grades don't mean a thing, and you really need to…
Argh. An introvert is not defined as somebody who cannot make friends, it's somebody who doesn't feel the need to make many friends.
If you want friends and can't make them, your problem is not introversion (which is not a problem, it is a natural personality state) - it's shyness, or something worse.
To the OP I would say this: it's never too late to turn your life around. Seek help if you can (I do think the level of anxiety you report sounds worse than the average cage of college-itis) but don't think that your past needs to determine your future. Set yourself small achievable goals, and do them. Getting things done is easier for some than others, but it is a habit that anyone healthy can learn.
Life is hard, let's go shopping. Oh wait. Seriously, you're just exactly like the average 21 year old introvert without a girlfriend. Most of us have been there, and we didn't post about it on internet forums. Geesh. I vote against all the advice to "go see a psychotherapist". The only psychotherapy you need is to stop making excuses and get the fuck out of your room. Go meet people. Do risky stuff. Look for the brig…
I agree 100% Stop being such a wuss and man up already. You are beginning your life and feel depressed? Get a grip. You're young, intelligent (or at least not stupid), fairly healthy and even went to college. You've got advantages that some people would literally kill for. And you're whining like a spoiled 10 yr old brat. Grow up.
My friend you need professional help. We are not psychologists nor psychiatrists. For starters the only way to meet friends is to be outgoing, being an introvert makes this very hard, but if you really want to make friends you are going to have to deal with your issues and talk to people. Believe it or not, it gets better with time and as you grow. On the other part, grades don't mean a thing, and you really need to…
He just needs a good kick in the arse. If anyone knows who this is (hard with an anonymous account, I know), drag him out to some kind of social event and force him to meet some people. That's all the therapy he needs.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
I agree 100% Stop being such a wuss and man up already. You are beginning your life and feel depressed? Get a grip. You're young, intelligent (or at least not stupid), fairly healthy and even went to college. You've got advantages that some people would literally kill for. And you're whining like a spoiled 10 yr old brat. Grow up.
You are being insensitive and unhelpful. Clinical depression is not caused by bad events or circumstances; it's a serious illness. He's not whining, and he's not a brat; he is having a real problem that requires real treatment.
Have you tried meditation? I have had anxiety issues in the past and practicing meditation has worked wonders.
a few times
Earlier quoted context omitted.
I agree 100% Stop being such a wuss and man up already. You are beginning your life and feel depressed? Get a grip. You're young, intelligent (or at least not stupid), fairly healthy and even went to college. You've got advantages that some people would literally kill for. And you're whining like a spoiled 10 yr old brat. Grow up.
You are being insensitive and unhelpful. Clinical depression is not caused by bad events or circumstances; it's a serious illness. He's not whining, and he's not a brat; he is having a real problem that requires real treatment.
I have doubts about your attitude and about your ability to diagnose illness.
My friend you need professional help. We are not psychologists nor psychiatrists. For starters the only way to meet friends is to be outgoing, being an introvert makes this very hard, but if you really want to make friends you are going to have to deal with your issues and talk to people. Believe it or not, it gets better with time and as you grow. On the other part, grades don't mean a thing, and you really need to…
I thoroughly disagree with this advice. He doesn't need to get professional help to get over the kind of hump that every shy and introverted 21 year old has to get over (and does). I see no evidence in this post of anything more than the typical emo-angst and self-pity stuff that affects pretty much any intelligent introvert at some point during university. He just needs a good kick in the arse. If anyone knows who t…