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Start each day with the thought: "if I got fired today do I have what it takes to bridge it through to the next opportunity, and would there be companies out there in need and willing to hire me". If you can't honestly answer that with "yes" you are either accommodated, or running risks higher than you realize.
It doesn't matter if they have money. It doesn't matter if they espouse religion or any other outward signs of honesty. It doesn't matter what they say. If you have any reason to believe they can't be trusted, even if it is a silly gut feeling, then they can't be trusted. Nor can you give them any possible wiggle room, like payment terms.
except that some people have great difficulty ever trusting again, particularly after trauma. What then?
This has bitten me so many times. The last I could recall was a car lease where the salesman has told me the overage cost on miles was 10 cents a mile. Turned out it was 20 cents a mile.
Great question! 1. As a younger man I done a business deal on a handshake and then got ripped off after putting in a year of work - always get it in writing! 2. Companies are not loyal to people, people may be loyal to people, but never think an organisation will be 3. I ran up some debt as a student until I figured out personal finances, which boils down to; increase income, reduce expenditure, save and invest the r…
> 10. Tell those you care about you how you feel, you never know when you might lose that chance This one very much! Never skip an opportunity to tell people they matter to you. Time and life is very fleeting
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I eat at restaurants everyday. I know I shouldn’t but it’s hard to change lifestyle...
You shouldn't if it has negative financial or medical effects on you. I eat out exclusively, and do so for less than the cost of groceries and with fantastic effects on my health, and I'm doing so in a very high cost of living city, too.
1. Delegate 2. You can’t help everyone 3. When you fail, let it go and move on
Life, by default, is suffering. The surprise is not the fact that there is suffering around the world, but how we managed to achieve the level of prolonged peaceful co-existence that we have today. We should act in such a way that suffering or chaos is reduced---however small such reduction may be. Suppose you had a choice between watching T.V. and washing the dishes. Watching T.V. means, perhaps, that your spouse wi…
Speaking of dishwashing and life lessons. When I was in college (20 years ago) and sharing an apartment with 3 colleagues, the guys were leaving their dishes unwashed in the kitchen sink. Initially I washed my own dishes after finising a meal, only to find out the colleagues happily used my clean dishes then let them dirty in the sink. I realized I'm washing them twice: once when picking them dirty from the sink, was…
When do we get _that_ story.
Why are there so many duplicate responses in this thread?
Because we all want to reject a lot of the same inconvenient truths of the world, and when we finally stop, it makes such an impact that we're excited to share. If 100 people instead of 2 tell me the same thing is important, I think that's more exciting than redundant.
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You shouldn't if it has negative financial or medical effects on you. I eat out exclusively, and do so for less than the cost of groceries and with fantastic effects on my health, and I'm doing so in a very high cost of living city, too.
Can you elaborate on this? I'd be very curious to see how you're managing that, unless your cost of groceries prior includes bulk shopping at Whole Foods.
Most of the foodstuffs offered on discount end up being fresh prepared salads w/ salmon, whole chicken, roasted vegetables, etc. The time cost for preparing all of these properly at home is substantial.
Given that I don't buy groceries anymore, I don't have food available at home to snack on. If I want food I need to prepare rice or some other primary grain. These dishes have a significant lag-time between the impulse to eat and the dish's completion, so this prompts me to ask "am I really hungry or just bored with what I'm doing?". Often, I'm bored. I'll pop open a new book or change up what I'm doing instead of downing 400cals. Even if I do give in and prepare a bit extra, I'm still under my daily limit by a substantial amount.
The alternative, grocerywise, costs me approximately the same amount when accounting for spoilage and time. I love cooking, but the time cost associated with shopping alone (let alone preparation) puts the expected monthly cost of preparing food at home over 11$/day for me.
Accordingly, it doesn't make sense for me to shop for groceries. I'll keep a few vegetables (cucumbers, cabbage, etc.) or soups available for moments when I'm in a pinch (sick/extra hungry/very active days etc), but otherwise I just wait.
I'll likely look at adding pure-protein home-cooked options when I start hitting the gym hard in a few months, but I've bulk purchased fish and steaks from importers and local meat packers respectively at 1/3rd of their normal retail price anyways, so I'm good to go on that front.
A few things: 1) People's words are like deep water. Pay careful attention to what people say--it's profoundly revealing (more than they realize). By listening, I've been able to identify people who intended to trouble me in some way. It's incredible, they just can't keep it inside even when pretending to be nice. 2) Actions speak louder than words (given #1, this is really saying something). Don't look for people to…
Could you expound on (1). I have been toyed around by my former Co founder who sweet talked me into believing him. I still think I suck at understanding human behaviour and nature. Are there any telling signs that help you?
Another red flag is if you put something in email and they call you to respond on the phone. I treat email almost entirely defensively now. It's simply a record of things I'm comfortable being read aloud in court and a memorialization of what was agreed to in conversation. If I'm not comfortable with it being read in court it's discussed on the phone or in person.