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I learned the hard way that sociopaths and psychopaths are real, they're not all monstrous murderers, and some of them you may even call friend or family.
Amen to that. And some of them are super good at appearing normal even charming.
Bought Bitcoin worth about $30k over time which turned into $120k after a bull run after a awhile and I put my foot into leverage trading without knowing what I was doing. Kept losing and got margin called until I emptied myself. If I had kept it without a single trading, it would've been around $300k today.
That gave me a pretty bad blow when my company went into not so good state and my income took a hit, I no longer had any spare money and I've learned to trade after I know what I'm doing and split your savings instead of going all on your single favorite financial vehicle.
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Congrats on it taking just a few months. Some of us spend years in the "lifestyle" hole before waking up and getting a grip on finances.
I eat at restaurants everyday. I know I shouldn’t but it’s hard to change lifestyle...
It's irritating to change but after a while you start to appreciate when you can just keep yourself within your daily cycle with work and location you're accustomed to.
I take it as a lesson to know how to soften the next hit.
1. Never combine invoices - accounting bugs are difficult to spot and even harder to agree on. 2. Eye contact and thanking people mean more than you might think 3. Be wary of sales/persuasion people with good peripheral vision
Could you explain #3?
I went through a period in 2012 where I did more negotiating (car buying and lots of contract negotiations) than I've ever done before and noticed that the more personally charismatic they were the greater the ability to focus on me while being visually aware of what was going on around them.
I don't know of any greater meaning behind it but I've noticed a correlation then and since.
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Could you explain #3?
It's just something I've noticed over the years. Personal charisma as it relates to sales/persuasion/compliance correlates with peripheral vision. I went through a period in 2012 where I did more negotiating (car buying and lots of contract negotiations) than I've ever done before and noticed that the more personally charismatic they were the greater the ability to focus on me while being visually aware of what was g…
1. Not to naively trust others so very easily. Which leads to... drastic change in your personality and that leads to.. 2. Being very assertive, dominant, outgoing, life of the party, charisma, worldy wise etc. I wish I was the same idealistic person I once was. I am definitely enjoying life way better than ever before but I no longer am naive.
Great question! 1. As a younger man I done a business deal on a handshake and then got ripped off after putting in a year of work - always get it in writing! 2. Companies are not loyal to people, people may be loyal to people, but never think an organisation will be 3. I ran up some debt as a student until I figured out personal finances, which boils down to; increase income, reduce expenditure, save and invest the r…
This one very much! Never skip an opportunity to tell people they matter to you. Time and life is very fleeting
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> When there's a bug in their code, point it out, but don't tell them how to fix it. It's funny, I've learned the opposite lesson the hard way. I used to just point out bugs, like I was a tutor hoping they'd realize the problem on their own and fix it correctly. Unless it was an obvious brain-o (i.e. the developer knew what they were doing and just flubbed), this resulted unerringly in a "fix" that (a) didn't solve t…
The problem with this is: a) it doesn't scale (you are now doing the other devs' job) b) it only works if you are infallible (if there's a bug in your fix the other dev is going to say "colanderman told me to do it this way") I know that it is tempting to just tell people what to do, but it's not a long term solution.
It's strictly better than repeatedly pointing out the same, but slightly different, bug, in a series of incorrect fixes, before being forced to spell out the solution upon realization that the dev isn't going to get it on their own. Just skip to the end.
> if there's a bug in your fix the other dev is going to say "colanderman told me to do it this way"
So?
How to run.. After I first started running and losing some weight, I became enthusiastic about it. Then with the notions of 'more is better' and 'no pain, no gain', I cranked up the mileage and pushed through the pain. But I learned a hard lesson when I tore a calf muscle. Since then I've learned that form and technique, consistent and gradually harder practice, and getting expert help are necessary to really learn s…
Consistent, deliberate training and being conscious of form is how runners get faster without destroying their bodies. Then show up to a race and let that ego run wild. Finish strong, high five people and quietly sip your beer.