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Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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Re: Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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If the alternative is that your kids go cold instead, let me be the first to offer you a match.

And what should that child do for warmth, when both of their parents are dead?

Taxpayer. First for welfare, then the prison. Maybe that's the point, remove the father from the kids life, subtract enough money he can never fully stand back up, dad is now broke and out the picture and the kid without money or a fatherly role model. More fodder for gangs, the prison system, and exploited manual labor.

Re: Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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Flip the script and convey you just could not rationalize $2K a month for rent and you are saving for much more. My first job, after my house purchase was 73 miles away and in hindsight, I wish I slept in my pick-up a few nights a week to lessen the commute. So, you are not homeless but saving money. Get a gym membership and shower there. Eat healthy food at work (when you get a job).

I managed many people and had at least two people sleeping in their offices. They had to be secretive about it, sometimes there would be nighttime office inspections and they would always respond they were analyzing a complex problem, which fit in with what we did at work. One guy stupidly was walking the hallway in his boxers once, and a federal officer caught him, that took a bit of explaining to get out of that one. My co-workers that decided to live in their offices, also hung out at work all the time, but I think they had a little more flexibility as there were no fees associated with work.

My house caretaker takes care of our property in another state. He lives in the van I gave him. He was homeless for years and slept in a secret place at a local school, complete with an electrical outlet. He went thru great pains to not get detected. After I gave him our old van, he has not been homeless for two years. He takes care of our property (external) in that remote state and has access to our garage for some equipment for his labor jobs. The arrangement works great, and I recharge his Starbucks card in return for his labor. I also have someone I can trust to check on the property and take care of things like fallen trees, flooding, etc. One thing with him, he is “homeless” with van, but since he does not have a 40-hr a week job, he spends a lot of time at Starbucks. That can get really expensive, but it is a tax he needs to pay to have a place to hand out. If my guy wanted to work from my garage, I'd have no problem with that. Perhaps you could create a prop office that looked like a real office from a Zoom/Teams camera view.

Do get a cheap gym membership to stay in shape. It will also keep you spending less money at Starbucks. Perhaps you can target an eventual job where you can really be dedicated to working a lot and sleeping in your office. This assumes you would get an office. Or a private area. If you could work 4 ten hr days, then you have a long weekend off. Or, work late and then sleep in your car. I think you need a full-time job with an office or work area. This will give you a place to hang out and ensure continuity in getting money. My experience (little) with gig jobs is there are not enough to string together for consistent income to get you into a better place.

Re: Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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> If he wants to reform himself, then he needs to stop thinking about how tough his own life is and start devoting himself to others. I think we all needed to hear this. Good perspective. Yeah, I skipped over the OP and went directly to the comments. Bad judgment on my part. It's funny though, I checked his profile, and he indeed has PayPal and CashApp links. facepalm . It's clear what his intentions are.

Oh wow I assumed he was anonymous. So his LinkedIn says he's done a lot of web development gigs. He's had a GitHub account for 15 years but hasn't shared any projects and there's lot of suspicious activity in previous years. His X account allegedly has 11k followers but his timeline gets almost no engagement. Now are you ready for the smoking gun? He told a nearly identical story on Hacker News back in July and manag…

Yikes. Yeah, I'm completely in agreement with you by now. This dude should be banned, lol.

Re: Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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post #233

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I didn’t move the goal posts, I was referring to your married couple example. If you are married and you jointly agree to change the standard of living because of your shared goals/values, that’s your business. When you’re not married anymore, I’m in favor of the idea of making it easier to change child support payments in situations where things are amicable and jointly agreed to. I am very much aware that is not th…

You don't have to jointly agree though. If one person is just burned out being a middle manager at a tech company, they can choose to quit and move over to being a construction site traffic controller (holding road signs), for half the pay but a huge boost in happiness. Their partner might not like it, but they're not going to jail over it. But then they get separated - you no longer have that choice, or you go to ja…

I thought of using this argument but realized one could argue the agreement is not divorcing you. If they disagree they will simply divorce and have the judge impute salary at the tech one, which will nearly certainly happen.

If you are married and take a higher pay job that is pretty much always a one way valve where if the spouse doesn't want you to lower it you are trapped. Which of course is how people end up in high stress jobs much longer than they planned, unhappy but no way out.

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