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> 1) a lot to do, 2) very safe, and 3) don't need a car I think Bangkok matches this pretty well.
I really don't think Bangkok is very safe. It wasn't when I lived there a few years ago anyway. I'm not saying it's super dangerous but it's definitely not 'Tokyo safe'.
Curious about your experience, are you female or in some way a "targeted" demographic (whatever that means)? I've lived here since 2014 and I can't really say I've ever felt scared, not even once. I feel more unsafe in Scandinavia where I am from.