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Re: Ask HN: What's Your Morning Routine?

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Post by _kb » Sat, Jan 11, 2025, 2:16 PM UTC

riehwvfbk wrote: post #100

_kb wrote: post #86

0530 greet the new day by being kicked in the face by my 3yo who climbed into the bed at some point during the night. 0531 calmly explain to face kicker that it's too fucking early to exist and they should in fact still be sleeping. 0537 slowly drift back into a tranquil deep slumber. 0600 be ripped against every fiber of my being from freshly entered deep sleep to the chorus of alarm clock, haptic alarm from the sup…

There's a daycare out there that allows a 3yo to still be in a diaper? Also, unless the kid has special needs - a lot of these behaviors don't have to be a part of your morning.

I didn't say that. But thanks for taking the time to tell me I'm parenting wrong and my kid is special needs.

3yo sleeps in a nappy, like most kids that age. Family members have ASD so strong chance mini me is cranking that spectrum. There's also a little thing called humour that you may occasionally encounter on the internet. It can get a little diluted by the other common practice of "being a dick to strangers". I'd recommend giving the former a go.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Morning Routine?

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Post by glassjoseph » Mon, Jan 13, 2025, 2:17 AM UTC

moltar wrote: post #68

secstate wrote: post #65

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Yeah, funny how the divisions appear when it comes to folks who have dependents (not just kids, adult dependents count too), and those who are el solo lobo. I will add to your note a (hopefully) friendly reminder that parenting does not need to be as involved as some folks make it out to be. Some of the best parts of my kids days come when I just leave them alone in their room, ignore their "i'm bored" whinging, and…

I wish that worked with my 4yo. He’ll whine and whine. And then feel rejected and start deliberately causing trouble to gain attention. Literally cannot be alone for a second.

While difficult, it's often possible to teach children to be content on their own, or playing nearby, at least for longer stretches. The book Hunt, Gather, Parent helped me improve a lot as a parent. First step was not reacting when a spill or mistake or misbehavior happened, just staying super chill and calm. Maybe ignoring or at most shooting a single "look" if it was clearly intentional. I realized kids do want to do good, they just are bad at it. Next was giving freedom, but also more expectations. I stopped constantly commanding and telling my kid what to do all the time. As the commands got less frequent we were both happier and she listened more. When she was going to hurt herself, I'd explain what would happen instead of ordering her. Instead of "Don't touch that!" I say "That will burn you if you touch it". If it's the rare physical danger so severe that I need to protect her, I change the environment or keep an eye on her.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Morning Routine?

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Post by califool » Mon, Jan 13, 2025, 7:59 PM UTC

zeeed wrote: post #157

califool wrote: post #154

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I am going on a year from watching. feels good.

Serious question: so to all posters above me in this thread, do you do HN regularly as a social but just avoid other sites?

yeah been off that as long as the news. reddit, HN, github, & usenet are my social now which is funny because only 1 or 2 actual friends probably even know about these sites. i am waiting for aim to make the big come back! I only go on socsh every blue moon for a couple friends that refuse to communicate on anything else and to see pictures of all my cousins and their families -usually around the holidays to spell check their names. haha.