Ask HN: At a peak of my dev career, I hate my life

Post by tenonyx » Sun, Jan 30, 2022, 4:06 AM UTC

chihuahua wrote: post #113

starkd wrote: post #5

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Even supposedly "unattractive" or "aging" women can start to look more attractive as you get to know them. It's really amazing the transformation that can happen. So much of what is attractive is subjective. It's hard to see that when younger, but it's true. Besides, the attractiveness we associate with youth inevitably fades anyway.

Those aging women, how dare they get older, inconveniencing OP with their existence in the same timeline.

Post by ethbr0 » Sun, Jan 30, 2022, 4:07 AM UTC

yeeetz wrote: post #192

tootie wrote: post #152

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There's a 1000 similar options. Ballroom dancing, martial arts, bird watching, D&D. Most are happy to have new recruits.

Yeah those all sound nice in theory but those activities way more likely to be populated with other weird lonely overthinker types like OP. Do stuff that normal people actually do, not what internet people think normal people do.

Post by symlinkk » Sun, Jan 30, 2022, 4:08 AM UTC

tayo42 wrote: post #38

tenonyx wrote: post #13

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> So...people like you? you sound really judgemental man. I know it sounds bad, but I don't want to meet people like me. I really don't like myself right now :) I'm looking for a way out from this state, not a way to settle in. It's like you can't treat depression by hanging out with other depressed people, it'll make you worse. > Since you have no friends(so nothing to hold you where you are, right?), and apparently…

> Traveling and digital nomading is definitely on my list, the pandemic delayed the plans. Ironically, I find this to be even more isolating. One thing is right in the name, nomad, your not making and permanent or lasting friendships. Sure, you meet a lot of people but everyone is just going on their own after. Also I find travel to not be something relatable at all to most people. Most people can't do it, and get we…

Post by 1auralynn » Sun, Jan 30, 2022, 4:10 AM UTC

tenonyx wrote: post #13

throwawaynay wrote: post #2

"they're all full of lonely developers and other socially awkward people - short guys looking for girlfriends, unattractive/aging women looking for husbands, etc." So...people like you? you sound really judgemental man. Since you have no friends(so nothing to hold you where you are, right?), and apparently a good source of income, I'd advise you to go remote, travel, try digital nomadism, go to meetups, meet other tr…

> So...people like you? you sound really judgemental man. I know it sounds bad, but I don't want to meet people like me. I really don't like myself right now :) I'm looking for a way out from this state, not a way to settle in. It's like you can't treat depression by hanging out with other depressed people, it'll make you worse. > Since you have no friends(so nothing to hold you where you are, right?), and apparently…

Post by Blackthorn » Sun, Jan 30, 2022, 4:10 AM UTC

symlinkk wrote: post #208

Blackthorn wrote: post #204

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He’s just saying what everyone is thinking. You sound fake as hell