Live data from Hacker News

Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

news.ycombinator.com

21–23 of 23 posts

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#21
post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is really dysfunctional. You obviously had some serious problems with the people you abandoned suddenly with no warning. Why not learn to communicate?

You can't really communicate with children. I agree with yetanotheracc . Getting up and leaving is the most sane approach with the least stress,

yetanotheracc's comment does not say whether his or her employers behaved like children. If they did you'd expect it to be mentioned.

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#22
post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You can't really communicate with children. I agree with yetanotheracc . Getting up and leaving is the most sane approach with the least stress,

yetanotheracc's comment does not say whether his or her employers behaved like children. If they did you'd expect it to be mentioned.

- "dragged down by work requests"

- "ceased all communications with freelance clients"

- "Not having to participate in the death throes of a company I did not have any stake in"

Sounds like demanding children to me. Maybe I should have used the professional terms: bad managers and bad clients.

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This way to leave is expensive to the employer in terms of the time lost before they realize you will not communicate again and a replacement must be found. Why did you choose to not communicate with them that you quit beforehand? I am genuinely curious because I have witnessed people quitting by suddenly ceasing all communication before and I completely fail to understand it. Note that this is not mutually exclusive…

I guess it may be when you realize the absurdity of the situation you are on (they are incompetent, irrationally demanding, etc) and that you really would not lose much just cutting those people, also to avoid unnecessary awkwardness when quitting (this may be inteprerted as you are in an indirect way saying that they suck).

I guess it may be when you realize the absurdity of the situation you are on (they are incompetent, irrationally demanding, etc) and that you really would not lose much just cutting those people, also to avoid unnecessary awkwardness when quitting

Spot on.

Post reply on HN