lmao, grow a pair you pussy.
his balls are larger than your brains, combined.
Ask HN: Broke up with girlfriend, how to get on track with projects?
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Re: Ask HN: Broke up with girlfriend, how to get on track with projects?
#22Just got over a similar situation where I broke up and was still living with my ex; this would be bad enough, but she also began spending all her time with another roommate, perhaps romantically perhaps not, while excluding me from all communication. She could not afford to move out, and I could not afford to help her move out; somehow I held on to empathy to allow her to stay. I worked from home about 50-50 before t…
Really touching piece of art, thanks for sharing.
Re: Ask HN: Broke up with girlfriend, how to get on track with projects?
#23I believe an answer to such a question involves topics out of the scope of HN, but I guess it doesn't hurt once in a while. I went through that situation a couple of weeks ago, so here is how I dealt with it. Hopefully you'll find something useful in it.
I had to become stable again as an individual first. It means getting used to be alone and not having someone to share my life with everyday. I've been spending a huge amount of time with my self. It's been hard, but it's also been the only way for me to figure out what I wanted in life.
Luckily, I am a developer doing what I love, and that helped a lot. I believe you are too.
Another important point was for me to realize that she and I weren't meant to be together, and she broke up with me for a reason. We believed in different ideologies, and she probably wanted something I could never give her. I don't know what your situation is, but there is a significant chance that you broke up for a good reason.
Don't hesitate to talk about it with others. Anyone.
Brace yourself and enjoy the time you have with your self. You may have most one of the most significant things in your life, but you're now free to be and become anyone you want. Do the things you could not do in your relationships.
bradleysmith is absolutely right when he advised you to "grin and bear it. Struggle through, and find the focus within yourself. You'll make it through this, regardless of what happens."
Once you manage to stabilize and strengthen yourself as an individual, your love for coding and other things in your life will be stronger than ever! : )
One book that helped me was The Fountainhead, by Ayn Rand. It's about one's love for his work, in part.
Re: Ask HN: Broke up with girlfriend, how to get on track with projects?
#24Stay strong. The best way to stay focused is to follow your passion, keep doing what you truly like to do. During your spare time, keep yourself busy with things you enjoy. Always keep yourself busy. Don't hesitate up some friends, even those you didn't see for a long time. Set yourself goals which you'll enjoy following. Stay strong and enjoy everything you do :)
Re: Ask HN: Broke up with girlfriend, how to get on track with projects?
#25If you can afford it, take a week off, go to a beach somewhere, perhaps with a friend, and do some meditation. Maybe sign up for an online dating site to make you realize there are other options out there and she can't be the only one who can make you happy.
Dont sign up for dateing sites because I did that, and it only made everything worse, I realized the ex was even more special, and the people on dateing sites sucked all completely.
Re: Ask HN: Broke up with girlfriend, how to get on track with projects?
#26Exercise often helps in these situations.