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Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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mooreds wrote: post #8
caprock wrote: post #7

First, there's nothing wrong with what you're feeling. It's a signal, and it's great that you're giving it consideration. It sounds like you're in need of a Purpose. Like many folks in modern times. Casually and broadly speaking, I'd say you have a couple of paths forward. Neither is a short-term holistic solution. These paths aren't mutually exclusive either. 1. Focus on creating and solidifying a family Many many p…

Having a family is underrated IMO. Just gives you so much more perspective. And you can't know that until you do it. Reminds me of this podcast on "Vampires, Life Choices, and Transformation": https://www.econtalk.org/l-a-paul-on-vampires-life-choices-a...

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Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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Post by triceratops »

silverquiet wrote: post #17
recursivedoubts wrote: post #10

Get married and have children. For time immemorial that is what your ancestors have done. It will not make you happy as you currently conceptualize it, but it will add purpose (and much suffering, as always comes with purpose) to your life. It is what you are designed to do.

What if women aren't interested in you?

OP is in a relationship.

Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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Post by pavel_lishin »

recursivedoubts wrote: post #10

Get married and have children. For time immemorial that is what your ancestors have done. It will not make you happy as you currently conceptualize it, but it will add purpose (and much suffering, as always comes with purpose) to your life. It is what you are designed to do.

> Get married and have children.

This is terrible advice to someone you know virtually nothing about, other than the three paragraphs they chose to type out about themselves. The first part, fine, it only affects a consenting adult. But I always hesitate to cheerfully tell someone to go ahead and sign up for a minimum of 18 years of responsibility for a human being, a human being that you'll be responsible for molding into a happy, healthy human being - a thing that's surprisingly easy to fuck up to the detriment of not only them, but everyone they touch.

This advice is slightly more irresponsible than suggesting to someone that they get a face tattoo.

Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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Post by uhtred »

recursivedoubts wrote: post #10

Get married and have children. For time immemorial that is what your ancestors have done. It will not make you happy as you currently conceptualize it, but it will add purpose (and much suffering, as always comes with purpose) to your life. It is what you are designed to do.

Isn't that kind of selfish though?

What if you have a child just to make yourself feel better and that kid goes on to have a shitty unhappy life wishing they'd never been born?

Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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Post by [deleted] »

mooreds wrote: post #8
caprock wrote: post #7

First, there's nothing wrong with what you're feeling. It's a signal, and it's great that you're giving it consideration. It sounds like you're in need of a Purpose. Like many folks in modern times. Casually and broadly speaking, I'd say you have a couple of paths forward. Neither is a short-term holistic solution. These paths aren't mutually exclusive either. 1. Focus on creating and solidifying a family Many many p…

Having a family is underrated IMO. Just gives you so much more perspective. And you can't know that until you do it. Reminds me of this podcast on "Vampires, Life Choices, and Transformation": https://www.econtalk.org/l-a-paul-on-vampires-life-choices-a...

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Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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Post by kayodelycaon »

monknomo wrote: post #9
codingdave wrote: post #3

Are you sure you are not depressed? Depression isn't the "I'm very sad" meme that TV and movies makes it out to be, at least not for everyone. Having nothing wrong but just not being happy and having limited motivation is absolutely one way it can manifest. Or it could be ADHD or a plethora of other things. So you'll get the same advice as anyone else who feels generally bad - talk to a doctor. Maybe there is a medic…

This sounds a lot like anhedonia, which is pretty a pretty classic depression symptom

This symptom sneaks up on me. It's normal to be bored sometimes or not satisfied with something. By the time it's bad enough to be recognizable, it's already interfering with my judgment.

Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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Post by LargeWu »

> I'm not depressed

also you:

> Every day feels like prison.

> Most days I struggle to find any force to drag myself out of bed

> After my day job I feel so exhausted that I can barely find desire to work on the business.

It kind of sounds like you might have depression. I suggest you check in with your primary care provider or a licensed therapist.

Re: Ask HN: Every day feels like prison

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Post by rambojohnson »

recursivedoubts wrote: post #10

Get married and have children. For time immemorial that is what your ancestors have done. It will not make you happy as you currently conceptualize it, but it will add purpose (and much suffering, as always comes with purpose) to your life. It is what you are designed to do.

are you serious? this nuclear family cliche is terrible advice and would only make one feel even more stuck. ludicrous lol
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