I don't have any particularly useful suggestions, but I wonder if this falls under the can-spam act?
Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
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Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#22Earlier quoted context omitted.
I mean my brother is OCD and complains about the "mental load" of sterilizing every surface I touch when I come over, but doesn't mean I should take on more responsibility.
False comparison. That's between your brother and countertops. His situation is between himself and his wife. He's already involved
Not sure if that changes anything, it's about "expectations of others".
I've seen plenty of spouses complain of "mental load" and when you dig a bit further, it's micromanaging.
My friend was happy to help organize after-school sports for their two kids. His wife didn't like the activities, the coaches or the timing, so took it over, then complained that "she has to do everything".
If you want to delegate, then delegate. You don't get to complain about "mental load" if you can't let go.
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#23My assumption is that Gmail delegation is possible only with Suite/Workspace. Since she has access to that domain, ask one of the admins to do that. Otherwise, I have no idea how the public Gmail.com account can be delegated (this is a nice feature). Otherwise, it might be a forward. In that case, the only option is to add a filter -- if email is marked TO:themail@domain.com, then mark as read, delete, not marked as…
Delegation is possible with gmail.com, I’ve set it up when I created my parents email accounts. This person is trying to turn it off.
I’ve had about a dozen people over the years add my gmail.com account as the delegate and, luckily, Ive been able to decline since it looks like a real pain if I hadn’t.
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#24Earlier quoted context omitted.
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I mean my brother is OCD and complains about the "mental load" of sterilizing every surface I touch when I come over, but doesn't mean I should take on more responsibility.
But you could, right? You could acknowledge that your brother has a mental illness and try to accommodate him, by meeting somewhere else, or restricting yourself to single room in his house, or helping him clean.
You don't have to, but it might be a kind thing to do.
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#25Receiving a response from Google support is a win in and of itself. Unfortunately they didn’t help out, but most never get that far.
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#26If i'm honest it makes sense the admin should do it. For the person invited to uninvite themselves after is a bit weird.
If you aren’t a Googler, you should be. “[description of their assumed use case], therefore [forcing something on the user]” is the right mindset.
As a developer with pretty good product instincts, my first reaction is always “WTH? Why did someone implement this” and then there is someone in the comments who defends the situation and thinks this is the way it SHOULD be implemented.
That’s the best part about these problem reports on HN: It answers those Why would and Who would questions.
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#27Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's allows the "delegated" gmail user to access the inbox, and send email on behalf of, another gmail user. It predates GSuite. It's a useful feature for spouses or if you have a PA. Or in my case where my wife regularly points out she is effectively my and our children's PA...
". Or in my case where my wife regularly points out she is effectively my and our children's PA" As someone with aspegers it took me 30 years to realize this type of communication. It's so open but without emotion that I assume they don't care. The reality is often they are trying to be nice about expressing their frustration
That's impressive insight as many people I know without aspergers will often miss this sort of thing. Communication is hard.
So congratulations to you!
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#28Earlier quoted context omitted.
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That’s not even the primary thrust of the article (which isn’t about how much work each person does but rather how tasks are delegated and by whom) but it’s also not your place to suggest this. Beyond the fact you don’t know him or his wife and whether this is a serious or playful comment, the commenter didn’t ask for your advice on how to improve his household or his relationship with his wife. Oy.
I understand where you're coming from and just want to add as a thought, that we, as readers and third party, are also part of this public conversation. And it might be of value that somebody puts in the energy to pointing out a bias for us, that might easily be looked over and if unanswered, even serve to reproduce something by humorously normalizing it (just in general, I even think that GP is actually the minority who's aware of the problem and not in need of pointing it out)
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#29Receiving a response from Google support is a win in and of itself. Unfortunately they didn’t help out, but most never get that far.
Sisyphean Support: sooooooooo close to the top on that one
Re: Ask HN: Is there no way to remove yourself from a delegated Gmail account?
#30Trigger a password reset, use delegated access to reset the password, take over the account, remove delegation.