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Well, if you do decide to go for it, be sure to wear some flowers in your hair, as there’s a good possibility that you’ll meet some gentle people.
$15 for a sushi roll? What the …
I've been doing the digital nomad thing for many years and while I'm more or less ready to be done with it, I think it's worth doing for a while if you can and you seem perfectly set up for it.
The lifestyle you can live in Chiang Mai or Medellin or a few other spots for whatever you'd be paying to live in SF is hard to describe without seeming hyperbolic.
If it appeals to you it's worth looking into. My email is on my account feel free to reach out if you have any questions.
One thing to consider (numbers perspective, not emotions) is opportunity cost of $2800/month for say 5 years vs. living somewhere with a lower cost of living. If you are living somewhere where renting is $1k/month then over 5 years the difference is $100k.
Surely people in every major and mid-size metro area make friends, have romantic relationships and eat sushi. If you have no ties to SF and see yourself disassociating from tech then there are a lot of options to look at. Sushi on the coasts is probably better than sushi in Oklahoma, just a guess on my part though.
“ I am still dating and am at a point in my life where this is very important. At a cis male what is the scene like?” Not bad but wayyyyy better in NYC.
Any more input here would be appreciated. Have you dated in both places?
Based on your description, SF ticks a lot of boxes for you. So why not just go for it? If or when the magic wears thin, then you'll be free to explore further. As far as relationships go, as long as you do the things you really enjoy, then you'll meet like-minded people and it is through such people that you meet The One. Yes, prices are high. As long as you see it as paying for what you get, it should be fine. If yo…
Homeless will sleep at your doorstep and piss on your door. Homeless are not confined to the tenderloin. They are everywhere.
Crime is increasing. 13 walgreens have shut down, due to blatant thievery by criminal gangs. And no arrest or prosecution of thieves.
As for dating. The male-female ratio is skewed male on the west coast. Opposite on the east coast. And in the bay area, many more males vs females.
There are many better options and locations. Why even commit to a location? Why not explore them all? 3-6 months at a time?
Austin, Boulder, NYC, Singapore. The world is your oyster. If you go international, you save money on US taxes. Foreign Earned Income Tax Credit.
Follow your passion! I left SF and never looked back. My values maybe different from yours but I refused to buy more taxes than common sense dictates. Especially watching crime and filth level grows in SF and it's surroundings. However again - follow you passion and excitement.
Can you elaborate on why you left? I always hear about crime and poop on the street but I feel like if I avoid the tenderloin and soma I should be fine, no?
You know that situation where you're out to brunch at a popular spot, there are 10 people on the list, maybe it's raining. Everyone's crowding inside, you try to stand in one spot but it is blocking the list, you try another spot but the waitress wants by, you try a third and now you're blocking the door. That's how I feel about SF all day every day. There's no space for me. Street cleaning: move the car, traffic: people won't let you merge, Dinner: "it'll be a 45 minute wait" that's fine, I'll go to the bookstore. "oh we called you 20 minutes early (why weren't you here?)" So now you lost your table. (this happened to me last night). What else... parking is a nightmare, the bus is full of vomit and shit, don't walk down mission street in Soma (oh you work there? be sure to step over the needles and human feces). And the subway only goes one place. And the day a cracked out homeless guy tries to sell you a lego set is the highlight of the year because at least it wasn't drugs.
You can avoid those areas, but I was just driving some out of town friends to their hotel on Nob Hill and Robin says to me, "I think that guy's pants are entirely off." I see people with their pants down basically every time I go out. It's fine, I don't really care, but I haven't stepped in this much human excrement since I wandered around the slums of Mumbai and it starts to wear on you.