Use your programming skills to work as a freelancer and then move to a city like LA or NYC where you'll be surrounded by tons of well educated and attractive women simply by stepping outside.
If freelancing isn't an option I'd suggest getting a job at a company whose primary business is in the medical, entertainment, legal, or real estate industries. You'll probably be doing internal development at said companies and working with mostly male engineers but at least you'll get a break from that at lunchtime.