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I'm in my mid-40's, and have yet to have any desire for children. My reasoning essentially has been that if I have children, they will either be like me, or not be like me. Neither of these outcomes encourages me. If they are not like me --- well, I don't think there is any shortage of people in the world that are not like me. Further, I think that lowering the human population is the best thing we can do to prevent…
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Maybe if you read the other thread you'll have a more informed opinion on the issue.
You mean the one where the first line of the top comment says "Notice that most of the comments here are describing post-hoc how having children has been fulfilling/great/worth it. Which isn't really the question - it's not asking if having children was a good move in retrospect."? Yeah. I read that thread. Did you?
You should be asking the opposite question. Why does anyone choose to have children? The answer as far as I can tell for most people is that they didn't actually choose after careful consideration of merits. They either just kinda felt like they wanted kids or were told that they needed to have kids or kids just kinda happened, or some combination of the three. But so much of the terrible part of having kids is hidde…
When I need to smile because I'm having my picture taken, I just think of my kids.
You should be asking the opposite question. Why does anyone choose to have children? The answer as far as I can tell for most people is that they didn't actually choose after careful consideration of merits. They either just kinda felt like they wanted kids or were told that they needed to have kids or kids just kinda happened, or some combination of the three. But so much of the terrible part of having kids is hidde…
I would think that the opposite question does not need much explanation because we have some DNA programming to spread our genes and to "make offsprings". Assuming a healthy person and all the social/cultural/economical/philosophical influences aside if one decided not to have children, they must fight their own hormones in the first place. And to do that successfully they must have a strong reason and be able to stick to it because that signal is pretty strong. That's why the question "why not" is more interesting for me.
You should be asking the opposite question. Why does anyone choose to have children? The answer as far as I can tell for most people is that they didn't actually choose after careful consideration of merits. They either just kinda felt like they wanted kids or were told that they needed to have kids or kids just kinda happened, or some combination of the three. But so much of the terrible part of having kids is hidde…
> You should be asking the opposite question. Why does anyone choose to have children? I would think that the opposite question does not need much explanation because we have some DNA programming to spread our genes and to "make offsprings". Assuming a healthy person and all the social/cultural/economical/philosophical influences aside if one decided not to have children, they must fight their own hormones in the fir…
I'm 30 and I have no regrets yet but the pressure is quite annoying...I guess that some people just want kinds, some don't and some want when it's too late. I hope I won't change my mind...
Pressure from family? Friends? Is this more keenly felt by women v men do you think?
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You’re lucky your parents didn’t share your thoughts. As a father of a two year old boy, what you’re saying is bullshit. It may satisfy your need to rationalize your decision to not have children, but it’s still bullshit.
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You’re lucky your parents didn’t share your thoughts. As a father of a two year old boy, what you’re saying is bullshit. It may satisfy your need to rationalize your decision to not have children, but it’s still bullshit.
Nothing except denial in your words. Sounds like you confirm what the parent said then... We are here at HN to argue, not to deny.
The parent weights that against... having time for duolingo. Go figure.
For ecological reasons. No regrets so far. We know we might sometimes later, after retirement. Or not.