21–30 of 69 posts
Check out http://osmihelp.org. Great group of folks and lots of resources there.
I also gave a talk on this a while back: http://baugues.com/depression
I'm sure I'll get down voted but I'm putting in my anecdotal two cents, regardless. Are you having sex? Sex is a pretty good remedy for this type of stuff.
You don't need a gym, maybe just go for a run near your house to start, less excuses to not do it.
Lastly, have you though of buying a journal? The actual act of writing your thoughts down (vs typing) is therapeutic and may help you to work through some of your emotions
It seems reasonable that you are suffering some form of depression, even if it is transitory in nature. Good part is that makes you human and no better or worse then anyone else. Just my 2 cents, but this is part of what becoming independent is all about, you have to make decisions based on the information you have and not focus on the next great thing all the time, nor allow yourself to be insulated in your thoughts…
There is a company that told me that they're still interested in me if I ever change my mind. The job is basically building a news-web application for a client (hardly solving world hunger or any "real" problem) and the pay will be mostly enough to rent and eat. Do you really think I should just "suck it up" and do it until something better comes in a few years? Or should I keep sending emails?
If you don't take it, definitely follow the advice elsewhere in the thread and invest in your health.
I'd also see a doctor about the potential depression. Hopefully, it will go away with the structure of a job, but it's good to be proactive about health. (If you're moving to a new area, you can also establish care with your new GP or primary care physician at the same appointment.)
It seems reasonable that you are suffering some form of depression, even if it is transitory in nature. Good part is that makes you human and no better or worse then anyone else. Just my 2 cents, but this is part of what becoming independent is all about, you have to make decisions based on the information you have and not focus on the next great thing all the time, nor allow yourself to be insulated in your thoughts…
There is a company that told me that they're still interested in me if I ever change my mind. The job is basically building a news-web application for a client (hardly solving world hunger or any "real" problem) and the pay will be mostly enough to rent and eat. Do you really think I should just "suck it up" and do it until something better comes in a few years? Or should I keep sending emails?
On the depression side, I'm just getting out of some shit like that. A couple things that helped: Sun bathing, sounds silly and vain or whatever but most people are vitamin D difficient
A bit of exercise: ride a bike or walk for 20 minutes a day. This is easy, and just enough to get blood moving and what not.
If you drink, take a month off of booze.
36 hour fasts every other weak. Basically dinner on day 1 no food day 2 breakfast on day 3. It sucks while you're doing but it'll keep your head straight for the next couple days.
There's probably more shit that I've tried, but I do the above on and off. Try one out?
It seems reasonable that you are suffering some form of depression, even if it is transitory in nature. Good part is that makes you human and no better or worse then anyone else. Just my 2 cents, but this is part of what becoming independent is all about, you have to make decisions based on the information you have and not focus on the next great thing all the time, nor allow yourself to be insulated in your thoughts…
There is a company that told me that they're still interested in me if I ever change my mind. The job is basically building a news-web application for a client (hardly solving world hunger or any "real" problem) and the pay will be mostly enough to rent and eat. Do you really think I should just "suck it up" and do it until something better comes in a few years? Or should I keep sending emails?
I'd also agree that you get established with a physician and talk to them. Even a GP can a lot of times help walk you through this while you start your new job etc.
And just cause you take a job doesn't mean you have to stop looking for your passion. Keep up the search but take a job.
Never think this. Never assume this.
Talking to a company about salary is a business transaction. It's a negotiation. Unless you're somehow at the type of unicorn where they're not only small, but already have a lot of $$ (basically nothing out there right now) there isn't going to be any amount of "oh yeah, we like you" that will significantly impact your compensation.
// However, all of the offer were with not-that-interesting tech stacks and really bad compensations. // How 'bad' is 'bad' here if you don't mind me asking? Also, mostly startups or what?
// For me it was not about the money, but a show of how much a company appreciate me and how they think of me. // Never think this. Never assume this. Talking to a company about salary is a business transaction. It's a negotiation. Unless you're somehow at the type of unicorn where they're not only small, but already have a lot of $$ (basically nothing out there right now) there isn't going to be any amount of "oh ye…
Details (if it matters): Country: France Yearly salary before taxes : ~31000 euros
What you will find is that there's a lot about professional development that you need to learn yet. In time you will see your salary go up. Unless you live in one of the high cost, high salary areas like NYC, San Francisco or Seattle, you're not likely to see the crazy salaries you read about online.