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You are, of course, correct. But people often choose whether or not to take something personally, and their reaction determines the outcome. Consider the following situations: A. (Bad case) You criticise my idea/proposal, and I interpret that as you criticising/shaming/blaming me (i.e. I take it personally). I then decide to ignore your criticism, because I feel it is based on your personal opinion of me, which I kno…
people reacting to situations is about individual. but we know every individual is unique and different. Team should be encompassing and not assuming. CEO or Project Director's boundary is only with the idea and not the individual. Idea can be criticised, never individual. Your argument may sound right, but it is not considering everyone. Your argument is saying how one should react, but is not answering what if one…
And I always aim to criticise the work/behaviour and not the person.
However:
- When I criticise a piece of work, someone can still choose to interpret it as shaming or a personal attack.
- When someone criticises me personally, I can still choose to focus on the useful part. I don't have to feel offended/upset.