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Email me your info. I will ship one.
careful the guy created an account 9h ago, I would not trust him.
Reply to this thread, if interested.
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>That sounds like a plaintiff's perspective when there is no concern for the welfare of the other parent. It would be more accurate to say that the court prioritises the welfare of the child above that of the parents. That is, the system (in theory) should enforce that the child recieves the same level of support and standard of living as it would if the parents had not separated. Judges take a very dim view of paren…
Is this reasonable though? Going from one household to two households raises expenses. People also just go through bad times, mental troubles, skills atrophy. Even just not seeing your kids might make someone lose the will to get up early and give it all they’ve got for another decade. Is it really fair that previously they got to work hard to buy their kid nice things, but now they must work hard to buy them nice th…
These sorts of things are accounted for when calculating child support obligations, and in any case judges are not computers and can use their discretion in such matters. As long as you're operating in good faith you shouldn't have any issues. I was specifically referring to incidents where someone is wilfully disobeying the child support order, such as by quitting their job to work for cash 'under the table' so they don't have any official income to garnish.
>Is it really fair that previously they got to work hard to buy their kid nice things, but now they must work hard to buy them nice things or go to jail?
It's not about buying nice things, it's about making sure the child is not disadvantaged by the separation of the parents. That means keeping the same standard of food availability, clothing, access to education, and so on.
Think of the reverse perspective - is it fair for a child to have to, for example, give up after school sports, because one of their parents decided that they would prefer not to pay child support? Or be forced to change schools and lose their social group because tuition is unaffordable on a single income?
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I’ll hijack this a little with a question. Why do you think you’re qualified to tell OP to ignore 95% of the comments? That’s a lot of ego to bring to something so important…especially when you give the most superficial advice.
Probably because programmers aren't generally also social workers, who help people like this day in and day out, with essential local context. Source: my partner does social work, I'm a programmer, and I'm now aware of how little I know here.
Something reasonably close to this happened to me in 2002. I worked for Disney at the time and they cut back to the entertainment department and laid me off. My wife at the time OD'd, got herself committed to a psych ward, got us kicked out of our apartment, and we ultimateley divorced. I was forced to live out of my car for a while. It frankly wasn't actionable ideas and guarantees that got me back. It was commitmen…
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Probably because programmers aren't generally also social workers, who help people like this day in and day out, with essential local context. Source: my partner does social work, I'm a programmer, and I'm now aware of how little I know here.
Great, thanks. I would have valued your post more if you'd stated this. Unfortunately it just looked like you said "All these people are idiots and I'm right".
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If he switches from contract/1099 to a wage job I wonder if child support will start garnishing the fuck out of it. This is the black hole a lot of people get sucked into and end up having to start their own business to buy some runway because the courts very much enjoy kicking non custodial parents in the teeth to the point they cannot get one foot on the ground.
Supporting their kids is one of their responsibilities. Child support is income-based. I haven’t had to navigate that system so don’t have specific advice, but I’m not going to support someone dodging child support.