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I hate my job lol
Wake up, feel the dread of having to work 8 hours again, avoid getting out of bed until 5 minutes before my team's daily, take dutasteride and drink some water, get working and procrastinate as much as possible while avoiding getting fired
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I'm sure there's many books about this. You have to be carful when and how you give attention. _Boundaries are key_. If you're giving attention while they're behaving badly it can reinforce the situation. I've got three kids and it took a painful devorce and some deep introspection, personal change and turning some concepts on their heads. Now my third child (new partner) is a brilliant reasonable person and my relat…
Thank you for your valuable input. I’m keenly aware of attention value and try my best not to reinforce bad behaviour. But if he’s doing something truly dangerous I cannot ignore that. I understand that even that can be dealt with differently, e.g. in a calm and non reactive manner or get upset (reaction). I mostly try to stay calm, but of course it’s not always possible. My spouse on the other hand just doesn’t get…
it's been so helpful to have an objective third party who can offer kind feedback on approaches we're using, give us heads-up to potential fallout of certain strategies or reactions to difficult behavior, and also offer great suggestions on new or altered approaches to take based on our own family values.
Meta: looking at these schedules, it is very obvious who has and who doesn't have children. My schedule is trying to squeeze about 30 hrs of parenting, work and sleep requirements into a 24h day.
Still get far less done than many parents posting here. There are upsides to a rigid routine and not being able to put stuff off as easily.
While had a job, home office: Wake up, prepare breakfast, prepare for work (read emails), calisthenics, breakfast, start working. After left job: Flight ticket to Nepal, 6.30am hikes in Himalayas daily, flight to Thailand, activities early morning, flight to Philippines, diving early morning, etc etc My recommendation: think about what makes you happy, keeps excited, develops your skills/knowledge, etc and do it, eve…
I don't want to overthink but how can one finance this lifestyle?
Didn't do anything special to save except not having kids.
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Skipping the world news might be good for your mental these days
Doesn't work for me. I feel much safer tracking the disintegration of civilization in real-time, making predictions based on that information, and adapt the timing of my escape plans accordingly. So I must newspapers from all around the world every morning, even if it's painful. I have to admit though: Yesterday I cheated. On new years morning I skipped all world news to beat 2025 to it, delaying the inevitable by a…
After all, I am not criticizing those who have different coping strategies to protect their mental health, including to keep world news at distance. That just does not work for ME.
Care to enlighten me?
Wake up, feel the dread of having to work 8 hours again, avoid getting out of bed until 5 minutes before my team's daily, take dutasteride and drink some water, get working and procrastinate as much as possible while avoiding getting fired
I have a list of things I still wanted to do/achieve over my break, including reading a few books, finishing an online language course I’ve been doing, exercising daily, finishing a painting, etc etc… so I pick something out of those things and then that just leads into a relaxing and fulfilling day.