Ask HN: Are we all burned out?

> Covid has a nearly 100% survival rate.

Not sure about that survival rate, but do know 1 in 5 people with covid get long covid which can include loss of taste, smell, and neurological effects very bad for knowledge workers.

I think we have a naively rose tinted picture of the past. Most people shared their space within a community in the past not because they liked that place or the people they shared that place with, but purely out of necessity and not knowing it any better. Back then there was no easy means of getting new outside information, and even if your place in your community was somewhat uncomfortable, it was still something you knew. You knew what to say, you knew what not to say and to whom and so on.

So leaving that community was not something people easily did. But they did, because of resources and money, people migrated from their rural communities into the cities, families torn apart, the industrialization brought with it a faster flow of information. People got to know the world outside of their communities and realized that they liked it more. So instead of huge family clans we had small atomic families now, with grandparents living in their own atomic household, often somewhere else. Young people who went to find themselves in the cities lived alone or in loose collectives or flat shares with strangers (usually with the goal to get your own thing as quick as possible).

In western societies that new freedom and individualism then (like so much else) got hijacked by capitalism. Ten people living together only need one hairdrier, ten people living seperated need ten hairdriers (insert any other appliance/product you can think of here). People living alone is good for capitalism, which is why it has been marketed as a dream. Be yourself! Fuck the others! Get your own hairdrier! Live alone and die alone!

Like fish in water we internalized these values so much, that we don't question them. In the US especially those values have become architecture to a degree, your literal world took the shape of this individualism [insert suburbia.gif] – how to start living a collective life in a individualistic environment, where without your personal movable 8m² of space you are cut off from any meaningful function society provides you with?

Especially in the US people live in spaces that favour individualism to such an degree it is the simple comfortable default. If you want to change that you have to work against the forces that exist.

shut your phone, shut your mouth, spend day in nature, be honorable.

I was very unhappy until the day I dedicated my life to helping others.

Now I am the founder of a non-profit and despite taking a much lower salary, working many more hours and feeling much more stress, I have become a very happy and fulfilled person.

Once the center of your life revolves around helping others, rather than yourself, it becomes a lot easier to endure all the crap life throws at you.

Back in the 80's we had the Cold War, high inflation and an energy crunch. It ended with the 1987 stock market crash, which was the largest crash up to that time. Then we had to endure the Great Recession that came along with Bush's administration. The 90's were better, but the party ended September 11, 2001. I was a consultant at the time and I along with hundreds of thousands of others were soon to be unemployed. That was stressful because my wife was pregnant at the time.

We muddled through all that and got to the financial crash of 2008. Again many people lost their jobs, lost their homes and pretty much lost hope. Then things went well for quite a while and now here we are again.

Notice a pattern? You can bank on things going tits up every 10-15 years or so. The maddening thing is people overall seem content with this situation.

Do you need therapy? It never hurts. Really. Even if you're A-OK it never hurts to have some therapy. Think of your therapist as being your wingman to help you deal with the shit of modern life. Group therapy is even better because you get to hear other people struggling with the same things you are. I know they say misery loves company but it's really more than that - it's the realization you're not alone and you're not the only one feeling like this and struggling with these issues. It's actually very uplifting.

Good luck!