My experiences here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28691034
Ask HN: Coping with cancer in the family
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Re: Ask HN: Coping with cancer in the family
#142Everything else I would have said is already in the comments; I don't know the name of it, but the model is something like circles of concern. The person at the center of this (your mom): all of her concerns and worries flow out from her; all of the support flows into her. People in the next circle (close family) have the same sets of arrows - concerns flow out, not in; support flows in to them. Practically, it means…
Sounds very similar to this article[0]. This article helped me understand how to relate with people who are going through a rough situation. [0]: https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-xpm-2013-apr-07-la-...
this is interesting. i think it can be generalized. not just for ongoing rough situations but even for someone having a rough day, or a rough moment.
in that moment who are the people in the circles around me. and in whose outer circles am i?
in a married couple the partners are usually supporting each other. so they are in each others outer circles.
if my wife had a rough day then her circle takes precedence, and it's my job to comfort her. if i had a rough experience then i seek comfort from my wife. now my circle matters more for the moment.