Awful. My wife has a terminal illness and I'm struggling to work while taking care of her and shopping and cleaning and laundry and cooking and pets and school, etc. When I say I'm struggling to work, I'm struggling to be clear-headed and effective at work. My co-workers are AWESOME and are helping to shoulder the load, and the upper management has been great giving me time to deal with appointments. I am contributin…
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#142Now things have completely flipped, and it's pretty confusing. I got a job that I like and switched industries from healthcare infrastructure to manufacturing, and I actually believe in my company / like my manager / make a little more money, and by living in a house with 4 friends I've known forever I'm saving a ton. But I also have a 2.5 hour round-trip commute, and live in a city with such bad infrastructure that things like getting groceries have a huge amount of friction associated with them.
The weird thing is that the tiredness/lack of spare time/time dilation that comes with a living situation like this feels like dissociation, and the fact that I can't move forward with my previous goals effectively makes me feel like I am atrophying as a person. I'll probably do this for another year or so.
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> I don't buy mindfulness in the slightest > I write down important things that are nagging at me Sounds like you buy it at least a bit.
There can be overlap between methods doing CBT and mindfulness and I need to record my thoughts so I can have an honest conversation with my therapist. Like maybe I should have been clearer with that specific sentiment because what I really have an issue with isn't the Hindu idea of mindfulness but with a company provided mindfulness program or say the hundred million dollar Headspace App mindfulness idea. I'd person…
The downside of this, of course, is that you are relying on physical security only. All of the data is plaintext.
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#144Awful. My wife has a terminal illness and I'm struggling to work while taking care of her and shopping and cleaning and laundry and cooking and pets and school, etc. When I say I'm struggling to work, I'm struggling to be clear-headed and effective at work. My co-workers are AWESOME and are helping to shoulder the load, and the upper management has been great giving me time to deal with appointments. I am contributin…
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exercise, omg you have no idea how much this helps.
Is there something wrong with the way I jog? Because I don't find it to be making much of a difference. Same for cycling, walking, etc.
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#146I can't really think of anyone that DOESN'T have any mental issues. It can be as simple as self-doubt, especially if you're married with kids. I believe men suffer tremendously but never seek the necessary help. I'm lucky enough that my employer allows for free sessions, and I have and will continue to seek treatment since I benefited so much. It's important to note that you HAVE to want it. If you have any bit of do…
> I can't really think of anyone that DOESN'T have any mental issues Citation very, very badly needed. Can't make the assertion that _everyone_ is screwed up in the head without evidence. I don't have issues; I get I'm a single datapoint, but your assertion was essentially that everyone's got them. So now you can think of one. I've got a happy life and everything's going well for me and my family. Hiccups here-and-th…
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15 minutes is a really long time to meditate. Anyone who's new to it, I suggest starting with 30 seconds and work your way up to 15 in increments of 30 seconds to a minute. It's like starting with an empty bar when weightlifting.
Why don't you try any of these meditation with an open mind and let me know how many minutes were you able to meditate. https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=meditation+sri+...
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#148Going to weekly therapy is the only way I really track anything. I've been struggling a lot since my ex and I broke up last year. Earlier this year, I started thinking about how my dad treated me growing up and how it was (is) a type of emotional abuse. He's probably narcissistic. I'm sure it's a big factor in why I dated someone like my ex and why I've put up with so much shit in my relationships, friends, work. And…
If you're in the Bay Area would be happy to meet up for a coffee. I understand the desire to just want to stay home a lot too, so no pressure. Email in profile.
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#149I was thinking of getting a life coach or something similar. Does anyone have experience with that?
To end on a positive note, I'm eating well (mainly a plant based diet) and working out more than normally within the last few years.
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#150Bad. I've suffered from depression for ages. I'm an academic teaching at a small college in a small rural town. I wish I could regularly see a therapist, but there's no one within an hour of where I live. Definitely feel trapped.