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Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?
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#142How to recognise and safely ignore narcissists, thanks president trump!
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#143That self betrayal is the root of all my suffering.
Read the “The Anatomy of Peace” for full explanation.
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#144After 8 years I've finally come to the end of struggling with working remotely. I'm going back to 2 hour daily commutes. The flexibility of remote work can be a real problem. It causes arguments because you don't have a 3rd party to blame for when you have to be in work or not.
Not sure I understand. Why do you need to blame a third party?
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#145* When the CEO dumps the CTO and folds the job into his own, the startup is dead, no matter for how long it continues to turn a profit.
* Freecamping in Europe has shown me as an American that America is not nearly as free as we were taught to think. Great place to make money, though.
* There are definitely better things to experience in life than playing with more money than one really _needs_.
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#146Life is short, so work on things that matter. People you love can be gone tomorrow. You too - so prepare for that. You don't make friends at job, you will be fired as soon as they notice you have some family problems influencing your work. There will be no talking, no asking anything... and then your "friends" will silently agree with everything the manager does. Read more - it really helps with anything you will do.…
> You don't make friends at job The more general variation on this theme is : "Most of your friends aren't". They're drinking buddies, folks to talk to at $event and $hobby_club If shit meets fan most of them will disappear. There will be a few who turn out to be real friends. A few in each group will surprise you greatly.
I've learned the hard way that there are true friends and there are fair weather friends.
The worst part is that if they were in a shitty situation I would've been willing to help them out (and often did), but when the tables were turned they were nowhere to be found.
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#147We undervalue ourselves most of the time. We overestimate our fears most of the time. An idea is nothing. Execution is everything.
The extent to which we usually overestimate danger (i.e. are fearful) in non-physical situations can hardly be overstated. We often behave as if some social triviality or temporary financial issue were actually life threatening, when indeed near-worst case scenarios are almost inconsequential. That person will judge you for a week or so then forget about it; if you fail financially you can rely on family, friends, sa…
I heard somewhere, probably in a children's movie, something that I've talked to my kids about: Being brave is not feeling no fear, but to act even when you're afraid.
Some fears are rational, but as you say, a lot of fears are totally out of proportion. It's important to not exaggerate any negative consequences that might arise from a situation.
Another neat thing I heard in a podcast on writing was that the author fought her fear of talking in front of an audience with the fear of missing out. She knew that if she declined the invitation to speak at a convention, she would later regret missing out on the experience. So she used the latter fear to fight the former.
It's important to not attempt to remove all fear from your life, as that's bound to fail anyway and make you more anxious, but to learn to live with fear on a low enough level so that you still keep acting.
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#148Outsourcing a problem because you don't understand it or want to work on it will make the problem worse and you poorer.
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#150That the solution to anxiety and panic attacks isn't "Deal with it! You're making others uncomfortable."
Any thoughts on what is effective to handle anxiety
Three meals daily, with a banana replacing breakfast
No air conditioning
100 push-ups daily
100 sit-ups daily
100 squats daily
Run six miles daily
1 hour Meditation
Talk to 1 new person daily