Ask HN: Do you manage your family's digital safety?

Post by BrandoElFollito » Fri, Apr 15, 2022, 1:59 PM UTC

vorpalhex wrote: post #80

monsieurbanana wrote: post #63

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Some people learn, some don't. Generalizing how tech savy people are, can or even want to be is a futile effort

People learn when they have motivation. If you always do everything for them, tell them it's complicated or easy to mess up.. well then yeah, they aren't going to learn. Tech knowledge is not special compared to any other kind of knowledge. You don't have to be "tech savvy" to be a self sufficient user.

I do not want to learn to fix my car, there is a service for that. I have exactly zero interest in cars apart from driving them to go from A to B.

Some people feel thr same with computrts.

And I do not argue with my parents or wife, weak as I am, just fix the stuff and hope for the best :)

Post by tristor » Fri, Apr 15, 2022, 2:26 PM UTC

recursive wrote: post #111

tristor wrote: post #79

No. I don't feel like this is respectful of autonomy, so I don't engage in it. If someone asks for help or asks questions, I will give them truthful answers at a level they can understand. The only rules I enforce are for devices on my own network, which I filter and control extensively but only at a network level. I don't control any of the devices on the network except those which are purchased by me for my own pur…

Minor children are actually not legally autonomous. Usually practically either. They rely on their parents for safety. This seems like a weird place to apply personal freedoms. "Before crossing the street, look both ways. Or don't. But you might have to get a job to pay off your hospital debts. I'm respecting your autonomy."

I don't think your example is valid in response to my comment. It seems to be a straw man that is also at the same time argumentum ad absurdum.

I don't feel it's appropriate to write more thoroughly on the topic, but it suffices to say that respecting autonomy and privacy and making age-appropriate loosening of restrictions is, in my opinion, important for the development of personal responsibility, critical thinking, and life skills that serve in adulthood and crucial to childhood development. Parents are responsible for safety and guidance, and as children get older, the slider moves more towards guidance and less towards safety. I allow my children to do all sorts of "risky" things if they do so in an informed manner.

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