When one of your children's behavior abruptly goes from more-or-less normal to almost completely out of control, do your best to find out why, rather than just trying to manage the situation.
Ask HN: What did you learn the hard way?
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#122If you're a dev, don't work for a company where software development is viewed as a cost center--you want your work to be viewed as something that brings in revenue.
(Learned the hard way when I worked at a large bank.)
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#123Sadly, after more than 20 years building software, _NEVER_ trust a business person. My faith in humanity had to have me bitten by this the hard way more than once.
Could you elaborate a bit more? I’m not sure what to take away from this.
See e.g. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=18133748 upthread for a story about trusting business people.
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#124Earlier quoted context omitted.
Tell that to gymnasts and martial artists. I have seen the "science" of this over the years, but I have also seen the practical fact that it's absolutely unavoidable.
That article seems to aim at the hype that stretching will help with anything other than stretching. It's pretty obvious to anyone who ever tried that practice helps you stretch farther, but some people also stretch because they believe it will prevent injury or make their muscles more efficient or something like that.
I stretch because it feels good. I don’t expect a cure from cancer for it, though.
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#125Re: Ask HN: What did you learn the hard way?
#126Personal finance. I never took a budgeting class in high school and college, my parents lived paycheck to paycheck (still do), when I earned my first internship I was making over $1000 per pay period, that was a lot of money for someone who had only worked part time jobs for $10/hr before hand. By the time I got my second internship I earned more than my mother, who was the breadwinner. Once I was converted to full t…
Any particular advice on managing your finances that you're willing to share?
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#127How to run.. After I first started running and losing some weight, I became enthusiastic about it. Then with the notions of 'more is better' and 'no pain, no gain', I cranked up the mileage and pushed through the pain. But I learned a hard lesson when I tore a calf muscle. Since then I've learned that form and technique, consistent and gradually harder practice, and getting expert help are necessary to really learn s…
I have to say the same. Especially when it comes to weight training and running. I've developed some issues with my hip and I suspect it's due to running (badly). Bad weight training pretty much wrecked my upper body. How long did it take you to recover from your torn calf muscle? That sounds intense.
It really hurt initially but it only took about 3 months to get back to running. It took years, though, to really get the form to a point that it wouldn't introduce new injuries. My coach would set a certain volume (weekly mileage) and intensity based on where I was at form-wise, and grew it over time. I went through a number of injuries during this time, but none of them stopped me from running outright. Eventually I gained enough experience to know when I was doing something wrong and how to correct it. Running should never hurt—pain is how your body communicates with you.
In the last couple of years I've learned that it's important to really focus on whole body fitness, not just what's necessary for running. Strength and mobility are key.
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#128Earlier quoted context omitted.
I have to say the same. Especially when it comes to weight training and running. I've developed some issues with my hip and I suspect it's due to running (badly). Bad weight training pretty much wrecked my upper body. How long did it take you to recover from your torn calf muscle? That sounds intense.
Tight IT band + weak glutes = culprit for a lot of hip injuries.
Tight IT band is an indication of bad form.
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#129Make things pretty. No amount of hard work and usefulness can amount to a beautiful product. I have strong feelings about Lean Startup who told me to create a MVP, which made me look like an amateur. So, listen to the marketing people and wait to release a beautiful finished product.
... MVP, which made me look like an amateur. If you're in a domain where aesthetics and "beauty" matter, then your MVP is missing the "V" unless you have, indeed, made the thing beautiful. The Lean Startup approach doesn't tell you not to make things beautiful... it just tells you to make only what you need to validate your hypothesis. If that means making something beautiful, then you make it beautiful.
The website has a wikipedia feel, free and useful information.
There are lots of fans currently, but at the time(and to this date), I get people questioning legitimacy due to a having a white shadow in my CSS.
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#130Make things pretty. No amount of hard work and usefulness can amount to a beautiful product. I have strong feelings about Lean Startup who told me to create a MVP, which made me look like an amateur. So, listen to the marketing people and wait to release a beautiful finished product.
As a user I beg of you not to sacrifice usefulness and features for Pretty. Seen way too may times where stuff was rewritten to look better but usability suffered. Case in point: Walmart recently redid their self checkouts. The new system looks a lot better and I like it if it did not take 3 times as long to pay. It even took forever compared to the old one to register cash being inserted. And there were several comp…
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