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Re: Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?

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Post by ynot269 »

angadkalra wrote: post #89

All the posts below ignored one huge thing. I'm going to provide a list of actions that transformed my life when I was 19 and solved the problems you mentioned. How? These habits increased my confidence, calmed my mind, and increased self-awareness. Habits & systems are everything. Number 1 is the MOST important and is paramount. None of the rest will work without it: 1. https://www.reddit.com/r/nofap . Don't dismiss…

gonna need an explanation on how no fap is related to self esteem doc.

Re: Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?

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Post by lowestprimate »

angadkalra wrote: post #89

All the posts below ignored one huge thing. I'm going to provide a list of actions that transformed my life when I was 19 and solved the problems you mentioned. How? These habits increased my confidence, calmed my mind, and increased self-awareness. Habits & systems are everything. Number 1 is the MOST important and is paramount. None of the rest will work without it: 1. https://www.reddit.com/r/nofap . Don't dismiss…

Good list. Would also add that when you are first learning something expect failure at it as it is part of the learning process. Get feedback from someone who has done what you are trying to learn and learn from feedback. Self confidence and self esteem are dependent functions. Get rid of distractions in life. Get rid of people who do not bring you joy. Help people. Be kind.

Re: Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?

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Post by fartcannon »

angadkalra wrote: post #97
fartcannon wrote: post #96

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What profession do you operate in?

I'm a Machine Learning Engineer for a healthcare startup in Toronto. Just finished my MSc in CS.

Forgive my Canadian Inquisition but is having fun considered a dopamine hit?

Re: Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?

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Post by vorpalhex »

prakhar987 wrote: post #104

I believe being anti social and lacking confidence has been advantageous to me. When i was in college, i was hesitant to go out due to low self esteem and depression. So i would spend my time alone while others had a social life. But during times like semester examinations, i was able to study with no distraction. Today i have a CS degree from a top college and i work as a Quant. To outsiders my life seems perfect bu…

You are not a fixed point. You contain in yourself the ability to change and grow as much as you're willing to. It is not an either/or kind of situation, you may indeed have both.

Re: Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?

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Post by HSJuniper »

angadkalra wrote: post #89

All the posts below ignored one huge thing. I'm going to provide a list of actions that transformed my life when I was 19 and solved the problems you mentioned. How? These habits increased my confidence, calmed my mind, and increased self-awareness. Habits & systems are everything. Number 1 is the MOST important and is paramount. None of the rest will work without it: 1. https://www.reddit.com/r/nofap . Don't dismiss…

I would add that it is important to practice acceptance and self love. A lot of times lists like this give the sense or feeling that you can't slip or mess up. It's important to remember that you're human, you will make a mistake or slip up, and that it's ok. Practicing accepting those moments, being kind to yourself, getting back on track and continuing to make progress.

Remind yourself that you're not alone in this struggle and that any setback is just temporary and sometimes necessary so you can keep pushing.

Re: Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?

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Post by angadkalra »

lowestprimate wrote: post #112
angadkalra wrote: post #89

All the posts below ignored one huge thing. I'm going to provide a list of actions that transformed my life when I was 19 and solved the problems you mentioned. How? These habits increased my confidence, calmed my mind, and increased self-awareness. Habits & systems are everything. Number 1 is the MOST important and is paramount. None of the rest will work without it: 1. https://www.reddit.com/r/nofap . Don't dismiss…

Good list. Would also add that when you are first learning something expect failure at it as it is part of the learning process. Get feedback from someone who has done what you are trying to learn and learn from feedback. Self confidence and self esteem are dependent functions. Get rid of distractions in life. Get rid of people who do not bring you joy. Help people. Be kind.

I support this.

Re: Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?

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Post by angadkalra »

ynot269 wrote: post #111
angadkalra wrote: post #89

All the posts below ignored one huge thing. I'm going to provide a list of actions that transformed my life when I was 19 and solved the problems you mentioned. How? These habits increased my confidence, calmed my mind, and increased self-awareness. Habits & systems are everything. Number 1 is the MOST important and is paramount. None of the rest will work without it: 1. https://www.reddit.com/r/nofap . Don't dismiss…

gonna need an explanation on how no fap is related to self esteem doc.

https://www.antidopamine.com/nofap/confidence/
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